Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: Greenville area / SC
I'm going to take a different approach from what the popular opinion may be. At this point in your skill and confidence level, you have the wrong horse.
Yes I know, you love him, he is so wonderful when you pet him, he nickers when he sees you ..... and so on. He bucks you off, and you are becoming afraid of him - all the training in the world will not get a timid rider or a rider with little confidence over it. You need a sturdy, been there, done that, put anyone on my back and I'll teach them to ride - kind of horse.
It is not the horse as much as it is the rider and one of several things can happen from this point:
1. You can spend tons of money with an instructor who will help you to a degree but it will take a long time and a lot of money but you will always have that fear that you will do something and he'll buck.
2. You can have someone work with your horse but it will take time, you will spend money and you will always have the fear that if you do something wrong he'll buck.
3. You will eventually give up riding because your anxiety will keep you from riding
Many many years ago I was in your boots. I had been riding on and off since I could remember and when I turned 30 or so I bought my first horse. He was the wrong one and I got bucked off nearly every day. It took a gentle, willing to please horse that I got next to get me over the fear of riding that I was developing. That was over 30 years ago and I still try to ride nearly every day.
The advise I was given then is what I tell each new rider I work with, "pretty is what pretty does - start with a horse that will teach you, not a horse that you have to teach".
I'm not arguing with you, I'm just explaining why I'm right.
Nothing sucks more than that moment during an argument when you realize you're wrong.
It's not always what you say but what they hear.