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post #1 of 10 Old 03-14-2012, 12:05 PM Thread Starter
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Help! My horse doesn't respect me!

I love my OTTB to death but he doesn't respect me. When I lead him on a lead rope he walks ahead of me and pulls and it's so annoying! & he throws his head a lot and won't pick up his back feet for me. Are they any tips that can help him gain respect for me and help us bond?
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post #2 of 10 Old 03-14-2012, 12:08 PM
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Groundwork, groundwork, groundwork!!! It does seem you may not have quite the level of experience that would be most beneficial in addressing this, though, so I would suggest finding someone able to work for both of you on this.
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post #3 of 10 Old 03-14-2012, 12:11 PM
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This could be a very dangerous situation for you and your horse. I suggest you get a trainer to start helping you.
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post #4 of 10 Old 03-14-2012, 12:14 PM
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You have to remember his background. TBs weren't taught to lead nicely behind you at the track. So you have to go back to the basics with them. Start with the same ground work you would start with a foal. Put him on a lead and ask him to stop. While facing him walk to the end of the rope. If he moves correct him with a sound (I use an "ahh ahh") and swing the end of the rope lightly against his chest until he steps back. If I have to swing it harder I will. Keep doing this until you are able to walk to the end of the lead without him moving forward. Don't let his focus stray from you. If Comic starts looking around I gently shake the lead to get his attention back. He used to run me over like crazy. This has worked really well for us. Also lunging works great with these guys IMO. He'll do better if you work with him for progress rather than fighting to force him to do what you want. Be calm and gentle but firm. Hope this helps. I know there are people on here with tons of experience in this area. Hopefully they'll chime in. Good luck.

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post #5 of 10 Old 03-14-2012, 12:30 PM Thread Starter
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Thank you so much! Any other tips?
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post #6 of 10 Old 03-14-2012, 01:36 PM
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When he goes ahead of you back him up. Repeat this OVER and OVER again. I suggest you look up groundwork on youtube, and try basic things like turn on the forehand and haunches. I think you would benefit GREATLY from a trainer as he sounds like he could potentially be dangerous. Good luck :).
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post #7 of 10 Old 03-14-2012, 02:49 PM
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A bond is a nice thing to have, but nothing but time can really create that. a bond will not magically make him lead correctly or pick up his feet. Teach him the good manners in leading (stay back, but don't lag on the line either) by enforcing your requirments , EVERY time he transgresses. And get firm if necessary.

By enforcing good manners, you get a bond, not the other way around.
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post #8 of 10 Old 03-14-2012, 03:07 PM Thread Starter
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I just contacted a trainer :) but until then how should I work with him on the lead rope and how often should I do it?
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post #9 of 10 Old 03-14-2012, 03:14 PM
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Every single time you are with him - without exception.
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post #10 of 10 Old 03-15-2012, 10:15 PM
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Have had the same problem many many times. When he gets past your shoulder where he should be, turn and face him QUICK and back him up till you darn near run out of space. Moving a horse's feet is one of the biggest respect builders. Horses in the wild move lower horses away when they mean business. You need to do the same. If you do it fast enough he learns he has to work if he passes you and usually once or twice will stop it.

As for his feet, you never told us if he just didn't like you touching them or just wont lift them? For both you would benefit from using a soft lead rope and doing some desensitizing with it. Throw the end around all four of his feet, then when he is completely okay with it, have someone hold him or tell him to stand (if he does) and use the rope to carefully lift his foot off the ground. Hold it for a few seconds, put it down. After he starts letting the rope lift them without acting up or trying to kick, use your hand, but always be alert! Do it till you can run your hand down his leg and lift it. Using a rope will keep you safer in the beginning.

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