help with rebuiilding relatiionship with my horse
Hi everyone, i'm looking for some advice. My riding horse is my 20 year old gelding. He looks/ is built like the SA Boerperd. He has a very good disposition normally, except for being herd-bound and seemingly becoming more so by the day. Unfortunately I don't get as much time to ride him as I would love, despite living on the farm with him. He had some serious teeth problems wich kept him out of work for some time late last year and up till now I haven't been able to go out and work and ride him as much as would be good for our relationship. The other problem is when we go out it's on trail rides - ALONE!!! Not something he appreciates.
So a few weeks ago I decided it's time for him and me to go and explore some of the cattle trails again, like in the old days. He suddenly refuses to let me mount. He does kinda let the workers , who admittedly weigh less than half of what I do, mount,although he doesn't really stand still. They are fly and mount on the jump, I can't. I use an old tractor tyre for my mounting block. He was recently ridden out to gather cattle with no signs of discomfort, so I doubt he's in pain, he's just being a pain.
Now I really want to rebuild a good relationship with him, but I'm not sure whether to "play nice" or whip has butt into shape physically and mentally considering a few days ago i brought him to the tack room and hitching post, saddled, bridled him and tied him to the hitching post. Thinking to try and use some clicker training to work on his mounting issues. The mares he was turned out with was within sight across the fence and he literally barged into me on more than one occasion in the 15 mins we worked tryng to see what they're up to.. I wacked him with the brush and he seemed to pay a bit more attention. Does he have my number, or am I missing something? how can we regain what we had?
Sorry for the long post and thank you if you read that.