Originally Posted by kevinshorses
I think she went too far and mixed human type emotions into it that horses don't have. Sometimes horses have thier own reasons for being nervous or anxious. They don't always have to take thier emotional cues from us. I try to put myself in a good frame of mind prior to riding but if I can't then I control my actions and make the best of it and that is what I expect from my horses. I can't control thier mind but I must be in charge of thier body. One of the reasons I won't tie a horses mouth shut is because I think that chomping on the bit is an outward expression of an inner emotion and I don't want to miss a change there if one occurs. Just because a rider is nervous doesn't mean the horse will be and vice versa. Horses have somewhat complex emotions that happen without any input from humans. Can humans influence them? Certainly, but it is not always the case. You can be as calm and loving as you want but still get your head kicked in because you did something stupid. Horses don't bond with people because they like our personalities they bond with us because they like the comfort that we offer rather it is food or rest or security. The bond only lasts as long as the horses needs are met. Horses don't love people. They look to us for thier needs and not much more.
I agree with this as well, for the most part. I'm not so sure they 'forget' us though when we are gone. The gelding I lost earlier this year was at my parents farm for about 5-6 months last year, and even though he was good for my mom, when he saw my car come up the driveway, he headed for the gate; he never followed anyone else's car up the driveway prior to that; he knew my car and he knew who would be in it. I have a hard time thinking their bond goes just as far as you feeding and caring for them, because I've experienced the opposite with several horses. I don't think that 'every' horse will be like that though, some do just enjoy human company as long as you are there, but there are those who seem to crave it all the time. Jmho, and experience.