Originally Posted by kevinshorses
Just because a rider is nervous doesn't mean the horse will be and vice versa.
Horses don't bond with people because they like our personalities they bond with us because they like the comfort that we offer rather it is food or rest or security. The bond only lasts as long as the horses needs are met. Horses don't love people. They look to us for thier needs and not much more.
I am going to disagree with you on both counts here. I am by no means a touchy feely type person however - - -
A horse WILL respond to the rider being nervous or confident. I teach a lot of novice riders and train horses. HUGE difference when you can keep the human and equine calm.
As far as not bonding due to personalities - please explain why some horses respond to one person vs another. Both humans do the feeding, cleaning, caring etc. One of my personal horses is 100% my horse. I really didn't believe in the hogwash a lot of folks spout "my horse only likes me". This mare follows me like a puppy, shies from others, dumps excellent riders and is a PITA for the vet and farrier unless I am the one holding. I don't treat her any differently than my other personal horses. She picked me.
Horses CAN bond with an individual. Yes, I will admit a lot of the boarded horses we have know me as the food lady - but they also know they can trust me as I am a constant in their lives. Thus - there is a bond.
I also feel horses can form a very quick dislike to people. New horse just arrived on Sunday. Sale horse so he is being kept separate. I am the only constant in his life right now. Four people have ridden him, handled him, etc. With only one of those individuals did he act up - fuss, paw, prance, etc. IMHO - the woman is a flake and I truly think he picked up on that.