Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: In the rainy, wet north west.
I have an Arabian that has major issues with being separated. Something that really works is -slowly- separating them over time. The thing that worked best for my horses was simply placing a fence between them. By putting that fence there it creates a barrier but it is safe for both horses. It works especially well if the horse that gets nervous has food or something that is rewarding to him. When we first took Ira away from Phantom by using the fence, he freaked out for 30 minutes or so but then settled down to eat, eventually working away from the fence and to the other side of the pasture (grain was also over there for a little bit of a push and reward from keeping calm). As time has gone by, Phantom still gets upset when he is separated but it is much less dramatic and stressful and over a much smaller amount of time.
Also, I would suggest taking the horse that -doesn't- freak out and taking him/her for a walk, just out of view of the freaking out horse. Be sure to keep someone with the stressed out horse in case intervention is needed. Essentially it is teaching the horse that it -is- okay to be left alone, you won't let anything happen to them. Eventually you can switch it up, take the horse that has the anxiety and take THEM out for a walk without their friend. Be sure to be safe, wear a helmet, proper boots, and gloves the first few times.
Making it a daily routine will make the process better for you and your horse.
On the walk back, be sure your horse is being respectful. If he/she starts to pull and get excited, make him stand. Talk to him and praise him for being calm. If it's really bad, turn around and walk the other direction until he calms down enough to continue back.
Over all -use your common sense-. Don't do something dangerous. Do what is safe and smart for both you and your horse :) This is just my personal experience with my horse. Improv may be needed. Good luck!