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post #1 of 12 Old 05-09-2008, 12:39 PM Thread Starter
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Here's me swallowing my pride....

OK, after much thought, blood, sweat, and tears, we have decided to send Rocket, my paso cross, away for training. I have worked, done everything everyone suggested, and still I'm not getting results. I'm so upset with myself that I can't work him myself. Has anyone else admitted defeat before and felt this terrible about it? I bathed him yesterday to get him ready for his journey today. I have been in tears all night. I feel like I failed him!
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post #2 of 12 Old 05-09-2008, 12:57 PM
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You are NEVER a failure when you know how/ when to ask for help!

You didn't quit him. You made a decision to better him!

I congradulate you on your difficult decision and am proud to know that you knew when to say when.

I am in a similar situation with Dumas. :( There is a thread in General riding about it. I'm at the end of my rope and was on the verge of tears when talking to my hubby about it last nite. I don't know where to go from here. He knows what to do under saddle his problem is he has NO desire to be around people when he is not saddled up to ride.

I look forward to the posts when you get him back!!! Pictures too!

Be strong and courageous, and do the work. Don't be afraid or discouraged by the size of the task, for the Lord God, my God, is with you. He will not fail you or forsake you.

1 Chronicles 28:20

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post #3 of 12 Old 05-09-2008, 01:01 PM Thread Starter
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Dumas....thank you so much for your inspiring words! I knew I could depend on people here to make me feel better about my decision and that's precisely what you did! I'll have to go visit your thread now to see what's going on with your boy!
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post #4 of 12 Old 05-09-2008, 01:29 PM
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Ahern I've definatly been in you shoes on more than on occasion! Good for you for sending Rocket to someone that can help him! Sometimes a horse and rider can't get along enough for the rider to teach the horse anything. It's not that you've failed or that Rocket has failed. I'm sure when Rocket comes home you will feel really good about the decision you've made!


BTW Haven't seen you on for awhile. How have things been other than dealing with Rocket?
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post #5 of 12 Old 05-09-2008, 01:37 PM
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Hey, don't say that- you did not fail him. You're doing the right thing by sending him off for training, if you didn't, then I could understand if you feel that way. :)
-MORE HUGSSS!- lol. :P Yeah, don't feel bad. You did try your hardest & did all you could; I'm sure he'll do good with the training, too.

It was a very good idea for you to do that, don't regret it.

Ride more, worry less.
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post #6 of 12 Old 05-09-2008, 01:59 PM
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I plan on sending one of my youngsters to trainer as well. I just cannot be firm enough with her when she tries to kiss and leak me all over. :) And she has some major issues too. I do NOT consider it as defeat or anything: I'd rather have done right than have a dangerous horse, which noone can handle (and i'm not a trainer in any ways) .

And yeah, that's just darn tough decision I've been delaying for couple months already hoping to handle it, but....... :(
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post #7 of 12 Old 05-09-2008, 02:53 PM Thread Starter
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Thanks guys! I need the hugs! I know it's the right thing to do and Rocket will benefit from it. (He'll be gone for 2 months!!!) I found a WONDERFUL female trainer that has the same philosophies as I do. He'll be in good hands....maybe I'm just jealous? I don't know I've gone through so many emotions about it!!

He is my baby! We have a bond that I don't have with the other 2 horses....He's a typical pocket horse that LOVES people. After a stressful day teaching 60 hormonal 5th graders, sometimes he's the only one who understands and will listen!

Fehr, I haven't been on in a while! I've missed it! I actually found a ladies horse group here in our area that has kept me pretty busy! It's so cool! They set up their own playdays, take the horses camping, take them to the beach, etc. I absolutely love it! We are doing a horse clinic on May 16th all together that I am so excited about! I'll have to use one of the others horses though!
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post #8 of 12 Old 05-09-2008, 02:53 PM
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I think it's wonderful when someone admits that they need a little bit of help - and just think of the trainer as a little leg up to get you back on the right track!
You are NOT a failure at all!! We've all been there!

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post #9 of 12 Old 05-09-2008, 03:02 PM
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Don't feel bad at all. I have no intention of finishing my fillys. When the time comes for them to be saddle broke, I plan on letting someone else do it.
Our first horse (a 2 year old) needed re-trained after we let it grow up for a year. Theres no way I would have done it myself. I think its a good deal if you can go to the trainers with him at least for part of the time so you know what is being taught. That way you know what he knows as far as cues.
I get mine as far as getting a saddle on, but I'm too chicken to be the first one on their back
If Vida was giving me problems I couldn't fix, I wouldn't hesitate to seek outside professional help. I'm suppose to be going for lessons myself one of these days. I'm way past due and the trainer is getting P-O'ed at me
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post #10 of 12 Old 05-09-2008, 03:14 PM Thread Starter
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Gosh, I'm so glad to hear everyone say this! Sometimes you just feel like you're the only person in this world going through the problem. I guess sometimes I need to step out of my little box and open my eyes to the fact that not everyone can train their own horse through difficult situations!
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