Hi, new here and need advice with horse and trainer
Hello, this is my first thread on the forum. But, I've reading all your great advice, comments, support for the past few weeks. So, I'm going ask for some advice on my situation. Sorry if its long.
A few months ago I decided it was time to get back into the saddle. Its been on my mind for a long time but with kids, work, etc, it never worked out. I'm not new to horses. My first horse was a green 2 year old Appaloosa when I was 11. I know my parents were crazy. But we were a team. I never got hurt, he never got hurt and we put in a lot of miles together. I also rode my moms horses. Until I got married and moved aways its been about 13 years since I rode.
I went to a boarding farm in my area, and liked the facilities (indoor arena), great people, and they recommended a western horse trainer. I mainly trail ride. Anyway, I took a lesson the first day on the lesson horse. Was I in for a surprise. I have never ridden a "push button" horse before. Within 15 minutes of riding she asked me to transition into a trot. Then asked me to half-halt. I had never heard this term before. Okay I have a lot to learn. I felt the lesson went well. At the end of the lesson she told me she had a horse that she thought would suit me. (I mentioned we wanted to buy a horse soon) We went to look at him that day. When we got there she said that when she got home she received a call from her partner that he was being trailered out that night to a potential buyer. Okay, this may have been a lie or the truth but I felt confident that this woman was being truthful. She offered me to ride him and if I liked him I could buy him for the same offer the other girl did because she would prefer him stay close. He was a sweet boy. He's a 9 year old Appendix gelding. My whole family fell in love with him and with the assurance of working with this trainer I bought him, well actually my husband bought him for me., I was more hesitant because the classic rule is don't impulse buy.
Okay to make the story short. He is now at the boarding farm where I ride him alone every other day and take a lesson once a week. I've had three lessons on him with this trainer.
Here's where my issues are. When I bought him she changed his bit to a Tom Thumb, put on a running martingale, gadgets I don't like. I took the bit out and replaced with a O-ring snaffle and rode him with out the running martingale. He's tossing his head alot(he did this with tt but not as much). We've been doing okay but some days he won't stop at all. My last lesson with my trainer was odd as she mentioned he is not a serious horse and they couldn't find a place for him (they tried dressage, barrel racing) and thought he'd be best for trails. Which he has done. My trainer says comments like her other student gets the half halt, stuff like that and makes me feel like a idiot. She got really angry when I said I feel the tom thumb is cruel especially in a beginners hands, like mine. I feel she is impatient and sold a horse that is not for a beginner. Did I get played? This horse is a pure sweetheart to catch and will follow me like a puppy. Not a mean bone in him.
I'm sorry this is so long but I have no one to discuss this with. My trainer acts like I should know all the pressure cues by know. Should I look for another trainer?It's a lot to take in and she's making me feel like a idiot. I'm in my 40's and my muscles aren't like they used to be. I need to feel my horses rhythm which I haven't yet.I'm starting to lose confidence in myself and second guessing buying this horse which I truly love already. I've been crying a lot because I wanted to get back into riding and horses because of the happiness it once brought me.