Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: Taranaki New Zealand.
I think the thing that I have really come to believe- and this is largely because of so many helpful people on this forum, is that a well behaved, respectful horse is not a luxury, it is a requirement. I have also learnt that a well behaved, respectful horse is attainable if you are willing to put in the time and be willing to learn techniques that have been proven to work. It amazes me how people are willing to put up with and even expect a level of bad behaviour from their horse and make no attempt to change that behaviour at all (or more importantly Their own behavior!).
This may sound strange but since I have joined this forum and learned the names of different trainers, researched these people, bought and read books, watched YouTube clips of various trainers, I am now looking at horses and horsemanship in a totally new light. I am learning new things and schooling my horse in different ways, she is getting softer and so well balanced. The difference in my horse in just a couple of months is unbelievable. We did a days stock work yesterday, it had rained the night before so the tracks were very slippery. It was the first time that I felt comfortable riding her on slippery hills, her balance is so much better and I felt like she really knew where her feet were. Even though we did slip and slide it never felt like she was going to lose it and fall over (which she was doing a few months ago). She just feels so collected and I don't know if this is crap but I feel like we are really starting to move together as a team.
My point is that this is the sort of relationship I want with my horse, I love the fact that if I get off my horse to open a gate I can keep the reins looped over her head and she follows me through the gate and waits for me to get back on, I don't have to lead her. Yesterday in the holding pen, I was doing some bits from the ground, setting gates and whatnot, Phoenix plodded around with me for fifteen minutes, I wasn't leading her, she chose to be with me and 'help'. I guess I just can't understand anyone who doesn't want to have this type of relationship with their horse. How can anyone who likes horses not want to have an amazing, mutually satisfying friendship with their horse? Why will some people not do Whatever it takes to achieve a great bond with their horse?
Now that I know how things can be, why would I have it any other way? Why do other people not feel the same way?