I've owned my horse for a little over a year now, he's had some issues we've been working with, he has VERY low confidence and is incredibly spooky. But me and him have developed a bond, he's sweet to me and has begun to trust me more and more, to the point where he spooks much less with me and his spooks are far less severe. I trust him completely and never get on his with an attitude that he's going to be bad.
My mom however, rides him 2-3 times a week when I cannot, and they have no where near the bond we have. It boils down to the fact that she doesn't trust him, gets on him with this non-trusting attitude and he won't listen to her, he'll duck out on the corners, spook, get tense, and in response to that she gets really tense, harsher in her commands [though they don't work because she's nervous] and ends up whipping him with the crop and getting mad. It makes her ride terrible and makes her trust him less.
Their relationship has gotten so bad that he is actually aggressive towards him, when she goes in his stall to halter him he pins his ears and snaps at her, when she takes him out and brushes him he continually snaps at her. When she saddles him the same situation. He never snaps at me except sometimes during the girthing.
So I was wondering what my mom can do to develop more trust, and a better relationship with my horse?