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post #1 of 12 Old 04-24-2010, 08:45 AM Thread Starter
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Is this even possible? my filly(who will be a year in May) only really respnds to me. When I hand her off to someone else, she gets really fidgety and tries to look around for me. I'm the only person she will willingly come up to. She has never tried to bite me but she has tried it on my mom and others. Can she really only like me? What can I do to help her like other people? Thanks! =) and sorry if it isnt the right spot for this.

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post #2 of 12 Old 04-24-2010, 10:52 AM
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Shes probebly just used to only you handling her, lask other people if they will handle her in their free time and stuff so that she learns whatever human she is around is her leader. :)

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post #3 of 12 Old 04-24-2010, 12:32 PM
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It isn't that she "likes" you -but more that she is familiar with you. It is also not really a good thing and not something to encourage (as nice as it might make us feel to feel like a favorite to our horse). The best solution is to socialize her by having others take on being around her. Since you mention other people already being around her (ie your mom), have them take over some of her care and take a step back while she learns to accept others.
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post #4 of 12 Old 04-24-2010, 12:46 PM
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It's possible. With my horse, who came from pretty bad circumstances and was going to be put down b/c of his aggressive behavior, I'm the only one he really has a bond with. He likes other people but doesn't care much for their attention. With me it's different. He offers to interract and to play....with others he just wants to do nothing lol. Up until just recently I would not let anyone else handle him (meaning work with) because it just wasn't safe. He's a very challenging horse who needs you to be on your best game at all times. A couple weeks ago I let a friend of mine who has pretty nice skills with horses play with him (she knows his history but hasn't really seen who he truly is) and she told me she was surprised how sensitive and soft he was. She had a great time playing with him and while he did test her at first she did a great job getting him motivated and respectful toward her. Point of the story being, it is important for other people to handle your horse to a degree so they get used to it. You never know when you might be in a situation where you won't be able to handle your horse yourself.
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post #5 of 12 Old 04-24-2010, 01:50 PM
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Maybe she's just a one-person horse. My Victor isn't real friendly with other people, especially men. He's much more personable around me and my mom because we're the ones that groom, feed, and spoil him the most. :)

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post #6 of 12 Old 04-24-2010, 04:21 PM
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I've had this happen twice. One was a respect issue and the other was a trust issue. The first one was a filly I got who had a 'tude. I was later told her mom also had a similar 'tude and that is where she got it. My husband still has a scar from her. However, since I was the one who worked her, round pen her, etc - she learned to respect me. However, this respect did not automatically transfer to other people and thus each person who worked with her had to earn her respect by themselves in order to be able to get her to work with them properly.

The second one is one of my current horses, Willie. He came to me as a unhandled stallion with serious trust issues. It has taken a long time to earn his trust and I am finally gaining it. However, he doesn't trust others. He does seem open to other women over other men - especially leery of big men, no no one can just walk out and catch him like I am finally able too. However, the more my husband does with him (feed, pet him after I caught him, etc) he also seems a bit less jumpy around him. I believe with time and just introducing him to others the issue will eventually go away.

In both cases - having other people work with the horses is a big help in getting over the one-personness issue.

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post #7 of 12 Old 04-26-2010, 07:18 AM
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It happens. My paint (who came to me as yearling from very bad situation) is like that up to somewhat extreme. And even having other people around her (who actually feed her and such) doesn't make her more friendly or trusty. BTW I don't consider it to be too good of habit or advantage as it brings certain problems.
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post #8 of 12 Old 04-26-2010, 10:03 AM
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I had/have a similar thing. I used to work for this one barn who made their living from showing their horses and stuff. They bought this colt from the amish one time, and the owner always told me, "Be carefull, he's a kicker, bitter, etc." But, everytime I went in their to clean his stall, groom him etc...he was so nice to me. The guy was like, "Nikki, I think that horse really likes you." lol

Also, my mare is somewhat the same way. She's not dangerous or anything, but when she's around me, she's sooo stinkin calm and listens extremely well. However, when she's around someone else, she gives them a hard time, and is really antsy and dances a lot lol.

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post #9 of 12 Old 04-26-2010, 11:01 AM
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I gotta say you cannot fit all horses into a box. Some horses will be a one person horse, some horses will be a people horse, and some horses will not be a people horse. It is what it is. And some people may disagree with me on this opinion of mine... but when you have worked with as many horses as I have, you come to realize that they all have their little personalities. Behavioral problems can sometimes be fixed, but personalities stay the same.

I agree that it is important that your horse be socialized with people, however I am not big on others "handling" my horse. I do things my way, I ride my way, and my horses know my way and it has becomes "our way". Don't need anyone ruining a good thing... which happens more often than you think!
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post #10 of 12 Old 04-26-2010, 11:12 AM
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It comes down to a respect and trust things. She respects and trust you more then the other people. The other need to gain her respect and trust. She does not need to like them but she needs to respect them. They need to be consistent with her as you probable are.

I have a mare who does not really like my trainer or really anyone she really only comes to me unless someone has treats but if not she will leave them. She spent 5 years with my trainer. She respects him and will do everything he asks b/c she trust him. She does not seem like she really likes him but she trust him and the others who work and ride her.

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