Originally Posted by waresbear
I am not going to get into the why you shouldn't train horses without experience & all the rest. It's been said a million times on here. I will tell you one thing, it will be frustrating, unsatisfying, expensive, aggravating, disappointing and possibly dangerous. Is this what you want from horseownership? Because this is what is going to happen in all likelihood unless you're extremely lucky. More than likely, you will end up with knotheads that you can't ride, that you can't load up in a trailer & take out the community trail ride, that basically you're just feeding & getting no fun from. Think hard & deep, is this what you want?
I disagree with you waresbear. Now my horse wasn't as green as the ones she is talking about but He needed a lot of work. I bought horsemanship videos and studied them religiously... probably watched each one 10 times. The results I got out of my horse were nothing but amazing to me. I think that if you are commited enough and like lacey said never let them win, you can get your result. I'm by all means not saying it is ALWAYS going to happen, or isn't dangerous ( I always had two people watching me, just in case) but I don't agree that it is all negative like you kind of stated. The bond I have with my horse I think is as strong as it is because I did do all of it myself.
Here is the thing Steph. I feel like you aren't getting very much support here and I am sorry because I felt the same way with my horse. I think that my only warning advise to you is not to go into this thinking since you have been around horses you've got this. It isn't the case... not even romotely. And from what you discribed you seem to going about their trust issue a little to.... softy... to me.
Not to open a can of worms but the videos I studied were the Buck Brannaman videos...I had pages upon pages of notes before I even put Copper in a round pen. One of my favorite things Buck says goes something like this. "Even if you rescue a horse and it has the worse trust issue you've seen, you're not doing it any good by leaving it in a field." Basically he's saying we are emotional, and think we can win over a horse by "being there" for it. They'll trust us when they know we aren't going to hurt them... They are animals... if you don't create dominance over them now, one day they find out they are stronger than you, the minute your horse knows that.... Kiss training good-bye.
I think if you really want these horses to trust you... put them in the round pen... and make em' run. You gotta let these girls know you are in charge. And in doing that the trust will build. Think about a wild herd... all of the horses trust the stallion to take care of them. When you do this you become the stallion, and your horse knows they will be taken care of. I think you should study up on training a little more. And look around because Bubba is right... horses are livestock and workes in the Amish community... not a companion like we view our horses