UpandAbove I have read through your threads and what a lot of people have told you is true! Horses are herd animals and want a leader that will make them feel safe. Look at wild horses, the stallion and lead mare are the two that lead/protect the herd. They have asserted their authority and that they are in charge. They notably have the most respect. If a horse does not feel that you are capable and in charge then they will take it upon themselves to be "the boss". A trainer is someone you really need right now to teach you how to handle her so you can be that "lead mare" which in turn will earn you respect, love and then you will gain that bond with her. Everyone can learn something from working with a trainer, even the most skilled horsemen/women. But you really need to do this because no one on this forum wants to see you get hurt!!
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