As I was reading over the different posts, I was thinking of my own horses.
My favorite horse is a 16 hand gelding, TWH that weights over 1200 pounds. He is also the herd alpha horse. This calm horse that I trust to ride anywhere and feel completely safe on, acted like a crazy horse when my husband goes near him. The first time I noticed this is when I had hurt my wrist and my husband had to help me put the saddle on him. When my husband tried to put the saddle on him, he side stepped and the saddle hit the ground. This horse has never done it with me. I don't even tie him up to put the saddle on he usually just stretches out so that I can get the saddle on because he is so tall.
Well, my husband gave him a good swift kick to the ribs and jerked his lead rope. The horse reared and strikes out at him. My husband acted like a crazy man, just like so many others have posted that is what they would do. My horse was trembling all over by the time I got to them. I calmed both of them down. Then I stood beside the horse while my husband went to put on the saddle. The horse started trembling again and I could see his tail go between his legs. I started talking to him in a calm voice and holding his halter and rubbing him while my husband put the saddle on.
After that, any time my husband goes near this gelding, his ears go back and he steps out of my husband’s way. My husband has tried to ride him a couple of times but the horse will rear, buck, and act like a wild horse which will set my husband off. It has been decided that the only one can ride this horse is me, that is for both of their safety. I had this horse since he was 18 mo. old , broke him myself and no one had ever handled him but me. He was nine years old with this happen.
My point is, if you see the way this horse acts when my husband is around you would think he needs to be put down. Yet, he is my favorite horse and I trust him completely. He has taken care of me in many situations. I also remember a comment about someone saying horses don’t feel love. I don’t know whether they do or they don’t but I do know that all my horses will leave their round bale of alpha hay to run and greet me at the fence when I come home from work. They follow me up and down the fence line when I am working in the yard around the barn. I have heard my husband tell others that if anything happens to me then he will have to bury my horse.
He could mean, that he “gets” to bury my horse. Lol.
Just food for thought!!!!
To answer the question how to fix a dangerous, agressive horse in my situation is not to let my husband near him.
At the same time I wouldn't want anyone to get hurt by a horse that they couldn't handle or trust. Just evaluate the situation and don't be in to big of a hurry to put the horse down.
The true champion in any sport possesses that special potion of courage, determination and pride that cannot be bought or manufactured and is reserved for only the very few.