How do you give a young rider confidence?
My current situation: I live in NM and because of life's circumstances My horse is boarded in AZ near my mom and dad and siblings. My little sister has been working with him (he is a 15 yo, QH/Arab, gelding) so she can do 4-H showing with him at the county fair. I am fine with this because I would hate for him to just sit out here and never do anything.
the other day I went out to teach her how to get him into the correct lead (starting by telling her how to watch his legs to figure out which lead he was on) As I was teaching her it came up that "He can't back up straight..." "He can side pass!?!?!?!" and "You can get him to go that fast!?!?!?!" I was stunned. I went out with her again yesterday (I am in town baby sitting for 2 weeks) and got on myself, aside from being horribly sore in the hip at the time and in the arms and legs later (from not riding for so long) He was so..... behind. I had to work very hard to get him to back at all let alone straight, I couldn't get him to lower his head, He would not side pass and getting him away from the gate was near impossible. Lunging before riding started with him trying to run away from me but once we fixed that he was great!
I know my problem is one that my little sister didn't know he was capable of doing cretin things that he did with ease last time I was on him, 2 she is inexperienced, 3 she lacks confidence, and 4 she gives up too quickly. I wish so badly that I could be here with her and teach her (and retrain my horse) but my situation just does not allow this. My parents have decided to buy her a horse of her own, a barrel horse. I am worried that Taylor (little sis) won't be able to handle it and want to build her confidence some how before this new horse arrives (not known when new horse will come). Any suggestions? Should I tell her to sign up for this forum to get ideas when she needs help?
"It's a lot like nuts and bolts - if the rider's nuts, the horse bolts!" ~Nicholas Evans