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post #11 of 14 Old 04-12-2012, 02:06 PM
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Here's my question . How do you all keep your cool ? The barn is supposed to be my happy place and lately I dread going and usually end up crying on my way home .
As a BO - I was able to ask those types to leave. The barn is so nice and relaxing now!

Have you talked to the BO?
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post #12 of 14 Old 04-12-2012, 02:11 PM
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3 different topics.

1 - Frustration and dealing with horse.

My best advice here is to think forward. Leave the moment for a moment and think about the outcome of the emotions you are having. Picture yourself smacking the horse with the reins. Picture yourself giving a hard and harsh rein correction on the bit while you are on the ground. Picture picking up that 2x4 and whacking your horse between the ears with it.

Now. Picture your horse's immediate and long term reaction. Think about your horse avoiding you. Shying away from your hand. Not taking a bit. Not allowing you to touch his forhead.

Then ask yourself, is it worth it?

The feelings you are experiencing are very normal. But, for every input there is an output. Train yourself to recognize the input and identify the output before acting.

What will end up happening is you will still feel frustrated but you will force yourself to table it or move on to another task.

Example: I was trying to catch my horse in the pasture. I would get within 2 feet and he would casually walk away. 90 degree weather. My frustration increasing with each footstep. At one point, I did the fast forward and realized if I did get close enough to put my hand on him I would probably kick his arse and smack him hard. Might have thrown in a halter correction just to make myself feel better.

So counter productive to the actual point of catching a horse, right? But, my feelings were valid and I was frustrated. But, recognizing that smacking him would only make the next trip to the pasture difficult, I went back to the barn. Calmed down. Laughed about what a dork he is. And tried again. This time success.

2. Girls suck. Nuff Said. Follow the advice given. It's great advice.

3. If someone asks you if your horse kicks, the actual answer should be, "not yet. he/she hasn't had a reason to yet. But, if you decide to push him and find out if he will, let me know. I would prefer to be elsewhere.

I say it this way for two reasons. One, it stops the person asking in their tracks and it is still polite and honest. Two: The day you swear your horse doesn't kick is the day he decides to kick. Better leave yourself a window to crawl through.

Good luck.
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Not necessarily . He knows what's going on when it comes to what people say about me because he's sat me down and talked to me about it and let me know that he knows none of it is true . But I prefer to not repeat anything or say anything about anyone . If he ever asked me I would tell but I probably wouldn't go to him and say I'm tired of so and so treating me like this because it's jutst not how I am..
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post #14 of 14 Old 04-12-2012, 02:20 PM
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Not necessarily . He knows what's going on when it comes to what people say about me because he's sat me down and talked to me about it and let me know that he knows none of it is true . But I prefer to not repeat anything or say anything about anyone . If he ever asked me I would tell but I probably wouldn't go to him and say I'm tired of so and so treating me like this because it's jutst not how I am..
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Wait - they are going to him and he has come to you? And this is STILL going on? What is he saying to them? I asssume he is not a teen. If he knows it's not true - and not merely being passive - why is this continuing? He should nip it.

I'd be outta there in a heartbeat. The barn/my horses are my home, time and place to relax. Snitty people are not going to ruin that for me.
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