how to find a happy medium?
Im kind of at a loss here. I dont know where to start. Hmm....well, i'll just say that my mare is very well trained. She goes good under saddle, she has great ground manners, and one of the things I find really satisfactory is that shes not herdbound. Even if the other horses run up and down the fenceline calling and screaming for her, the most she'll do is look at them and flick her ears towards them. But thats also part of the problem. She doesnt seem to bond well to anyone or anything. Its a blessing when it comes to other horses, but id like my horse to actually enjoy being with me. Oh, shes always done everything i ask. Shes not aggressive or anything, shes never tried to kick or pin an ear at me and i know for sure that she respects me, but she doesnt like me. I feel like im being a bully to her, i get her respect, but she'll never truly like me. Sometimes i am a bit over-the-top strict and aggressive about things, but i want to make sure she wont be disrespectful and id rather her hate me and be well-mannered than let her walk all over me. I feel like im being a bit of a b*tch, but then one of the other horses is just naturally affectionate and seems to want to be with me all the time. Is it because my mare just isnt a bonding type? Or am i being a bit too tyrannical? I dont know how to find that happy medium of being a strong leader who doesnt take sh*t and a calm, level-headed leader who horses want to be around.