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post #11 of 19 Old 09-14-2011, 02:37 PM Thread Starter
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Hey thanks!!!!!

Thats a great way of thinking about it =DI'm going to do that!

This might work!
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post #12 of 19 Old 09-14-2011, 02:39 PM
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Originally Posted by Gidget View Post
Thanks everyone.

It does frusterate me very much. I do expect her to be rude. With me saying this now I just realized she is the alpha and not me...I DON'T WANT THAT!
I don't want to be the one picked on. She is a very marish mare and I can only take so much of it.

I do love my horse which you guys might find odd with everything I post on here :P She has a lot of holes in her training but I see her being a great mare after we establish that I'm the boss and not her.

Well, the one piece of advice I will give you is never start something you can't finish. If you don't have the energy to fight her for 3 hours, then don't start a battle that may take that long. You always must finish what you start. Otherwise they win. (And I know you can't always choose the battle as they start them, but when they do it is important that you come out on top all the time). If this means all you have energy/time to do is jsut catch her and brush her, so be it. Take it in small doses.

A few small wins are a lot better than one big loss.

Oh and for the second part, heck if I judged my horse on how he was instead of just that he's mine, I would probably hate him We all understand why you love her, she's your horse and we can all respect that. Every horse has their quirks.

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post #13 of 19 Old 09-14-2011, 02:43 PM
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Gidget, I can see why you love this horse. To be honest, I would love a horse like her as well. There's just something about working through problems that appeals to me, and I'm beginning to see that you also like the challenge.

Just don't worry about hurting her feelings. Weirdly enough, she'll like you more once you set clear boundaries and rules for her. Horses are more comfortable when they know the pecking order and she's looking to you for that leadership. Since you're not proving to her that you're a solid leader, she's trying to step in and act as the leader instead. That seems harsh when I write it, but that's how the animal world works. Once you establish a leadership role with her, everything will start falling into place.
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post #14 of 19 Old 09-14-2011, 03:10 PM
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Remember Gidget too, horses like to make faces. Meaning they try to look scarey and mean sometimes but that's all for intimidation. Trick is to know when to call their bluff and not let it intimidate you. Hard I know. Some looks can scare the pants off you but knowing that's what it is allows you to move forward with her.
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post #15 of 19 Old 09-14-2011, 03:17 PM Thread Starter
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Thank you everyone :) I will try everything and I'm taking in all the information you all are giving to me. I really do apperciate all the help.
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post #16 of 19 Old 09-14-2011, 03:20 PM
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I feel for you, Gidget. Mine has personal space issues and being half draft, his version of crowding can't be taken lightly. I finally got a god stick (crop). That got his attention very quickly. One smack usually does the trick.

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post #17 of 19 Old 09-14-2011, 03:54 PM
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Gidget, you have lots of great advice here.

Now if you mentioned this, I missed it and sorry for that, but my question is; do you only catch this horse to work her? Or do you sometimes catch her, love on her and let her go? Or catch her and brush her and let her go?

With mine, I don't always work them when I catch them. Sometimes I catch them, give them a nice scratch in their favourite itchy place, then let them go. The point is, they never know if I'll work them or just pat them. With some horses, if you only catch them to work them, they start avoiding being caught.

Good luck with your mare!

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post #18 of 19 Old 09-14-2011, 04:05 PM Thread Starter
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I catch her(she usually always come to me) but when I get ahold of her I either try her up to groom her,i feed her,and then let her out in her favorite area to graze. I don't always work her but for but for the most part I do. I usually ride 5 days a week.
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post #19 of 19 Old 09-14-2011, 08:51 PM
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My yearling gelding has attitude issues too, because he was my first foal and I was so in love with him that I wouldn't correct his bad behavior as firmly as I should. So now I am still working on respect.

But I was thinking I need to get me a sign for my barn that says "Spare the rod, spoil the child." Just to remind me to be firm. Maybe you need to get a sign like that too!
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