"If horse does what you ask for, it doesn't deserve getting it's butt kicked." I was not threatening YOUR horse. I said if my horse responded the way the horse did in the video, I'd be unhappy with her and would correct her. Horses are not born with knowledge of specific cues. Mine are not trained to behave that way, and would not.
You can train your horse how you like. If you are happy with the results, fine. But the OP's description does not sound like a disrespectful horse...just a horse who hasn't been trained to respond to the cue the OP wishes to use.
If the OP's horse HAS been trained to a different cue, but refuses to obey that cue, THEN there is a different problem.