It sounds like you might have figured out a way to make some progress with her. I hope so
Originally Posted by thesilverspear
Joking aside, it made me wonder how many horses never make that cognitive leap from person on ground = leader/herdmate to rider = leader/herdmate and get written off as lazy/rude/sour/bad.
I'd say that they are more common than most people think, but IMHO, it's no real fault of the horse's. Truthfully, I think the majority of them lack the experience with a good enough trainer to be taught
to trust the person on their back.
There are so many riders who just try to sneak by when riding a horse, especially a young/green/spooky one. They purposefully avoid
getting into any situation that might spook the horse so the horse is never taught how to react to being scared under saddle.
They ride the horse for a couple of months in a completely controlled environment without issue and start calling the horse "broke". Then, when they take the horse into a totally new situation and the horse gets overwhelmed by all the stuff he's never been exposed to, the rider loses control because they never practiced maintaining control in the middle of a panic attack.
Then, of course, it's always the horse's fault