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post #41 of 61 Old 02-10-2012, 01:08 PM
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Sorry, but there has to be more to the story. Is the OP boarding under an agreement that the BO uses te horse in a lesson program? That might explain why she seems to have no say in how the BO uses her horse. It would be nice if the OP would explain things more clearly. It's hard to make sense of things as they are now.
I couldn't agree more. Did you sign a contract? Are you allowing her to use your horse for a reduced board?

There is obviously something else going into this.
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post #42 of 61 Old 02-10-2012, 01:20 PM
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Where's Paul Harvey when you need him? We need to know "the rest of the story."

Sorry, only the old timers will probably get that. Bad joke day, I guess.
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post #43 of 61 Old 02-10-2012, 01:31 PM
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I get it. I am that old!
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post #44 of 61 Old 02-10-2012, 01:56 PM
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Going OT, but what do you consider to be a "danger"? Just curious since you are a BO with long-term experience.
Repeated aggressive behavior that causes damage to human, livestock or property.

We did have one horse in the tie stalls that kicked at anyone (horse or human that walked by). After eye issues were ruled out, owner or I stood there with a buggy whip. Only took a couple of times and he quit trying. He pinned his ears and swished his tail but quit kicking.
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post #45 of 61 Old 02-10-2012, 04:06 PM Thread Starter
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Hey guys I'm back and it looks like you guys have had quite the discussion while I was at school lol. Thanks for all the replies.

There is much more to the story, but I didn't think it was relevent, but here it is:

My horse has some problems that the BM brought up about a week ago to me and I've been working on it with the barn owner showing me how to take care of it. So yes the problem is being addressed. But unfortunatly the BM (we'll call her "T") doesn't like me at all, and I have yet to figure out why. She has a very difficult personality and doesn't really like anyone except the volunteer (we'll call him "D"). D is very cocky and thinks he can play trainer with any horse he wants and T lets him because they are so buddy-buddy. I try to just avoid all of this silly drama but I can't now that it involves my horse.

Also, I do not have any agreement, which is why I don't want anyone handling my horse when I'm not there.

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post #46 of 61 Old 02-10-2012, 04:25 PM
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Yikes that's a bad situation to be in. Its ridiculous that your bm thinks its ok to have someone with no experience working with a horse with problems. I would talk to "T" again and explain to her that under NO circumstances is "D" allowed to touch your horse and if he does there will be hell to pay. Are you comfortable having T help you with your horse? If not tell her so and perhaps attempt to reach an agreement on how to handle this situation. Its only been a week, different horses learn at different rates and yours probably just needs more consistent handly from QUALIFIED people. Have you seen any improvement in this time? If you do not want help from T and she is unwilling to compromise on you having assistance with the horse then move barns or get a trainer to help you. I still would probably just move barns. If anyone touched my horses without my permission they would lose a body part. I wouldn't trust this person farther than I could throw them. From the way you describe her I would not put be surprised if she decided her authority overrules yours as the horses owner. So in conclusion lol attempt a compromise of more time needed, a trainer, or get the hell out of there! Honestly no one should ever train my horse unless I say so or I would be gone
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post #47 of 61 Old 02-10-2012, 04:27 PM
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Hey guys I'm back and it looks like you guys have had quite the discussion while I was at school lol. Thanks for all the replies.

There is much more to the story, but I didn't think it was relevent, but here it is:

My horse has some problems that the BM brought up about a week ago to me and I've been working on it with the barn owner showing me how to take care of it. So yes the problem is being addressed. But unfortunatly the BM (we'll call her "T") doesn't like me at all, and I have yet to figure out why. She has a very difficult personality and doesn't really like anyone except the volunteer (we'll call him "D"). D is very cocky and thinks he can play trainer with any horse he wants and T lets him because they are so buddy-buddy. I try to just avoid all of this silly drama but I can't now that it involves my horse.

Also, I do not have any agreement, which is why I don't want anyone handling my horse when I'm not there.
Still, have you asked her to leave your horse alone? Are you intimidated by her? I know if I were young and I thought someone didn't like me I might be a little afraid to stand up for myself.

You have to tell her flat out that either you don't want her working with your horse or only when you are there. And you absolutely don't want D working with it.
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post #48 of 61 Old 02-10-2012, 04:37 PM
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Hey guys I'm back and it looks like you guys have had quite the discussion while I was at school lol. Thanks for all the replies.

There is much more to the story, but I didn't think it was relevent, but here it is:

My horse has some problems that the BM brought up about a week ago to me and I've been working on it with the barn owner showing me how to take care of it. So yes the problem is being addressed. But unfortunatly the BM (we'll call her "T") doesn't like me at all, and I have yet to figure out why. She has a very difficult personality and doesn't really like anyone except the volunteer (we'll call him "D"). D is very cocky and thinks he can play trainer with any horse he wants and T lets him because they are so buddy-buddy. I try to just avoid all of this silly drama but I can't now that it involves my horse.

Also, I do not have any agreement, which is why I don't want anyone handling my horse when I'm not there.
School? Are you a minor?

Who has the authority - the BO or BM?

No boarding contract? HUGE red flag.
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post #49 of 61 Old 02-10-2012, 04:39 PM
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When is your mare kicking out at the other horses? Forgive me if this has been addressed..I may have missed it.
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post #50 of 61 Old 02-10-2012, 04:42 PM
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Time to get a written boarding contract in place, and spell out just who is and isn't allowed to work with your horse.

If the BO refuses to address it with the BM, then she's not doing her duty as owner of the facility.

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