I feel like my trainer/BO is slowing me down. - Page 3 - The Horse Forum
LinkBack Thread Tools
post #21 of 24 Old 07-08-2013, 04:30 PM
Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: Missouri
Posts: 16,846
• Horses: 1
Originally Posted by KigerQueen View Post
How dose she not sound like she knows what she is doing? Really? I know a lady who is a trainer and she beats the horses until they become mean or have bloody marks on them, and no one thinks she is wrong (and she takes FOREVER to train them). I have seen people brake a horse and not have gaps in a month of constant work (cutting horse trainer who is the father of Lee Francois) and be the softest most willing horses.
And also come here to rant.... lol

Originally Posted by KigerQueen View Post
People come HERE TO ASK QUESTIONS! If people are going to be criticized for using THE RESOURCE given then it should not be here! She is asking honest questions. She is getting feedback from a trainer that she was making her question herself. Can ANY of you tell me you have to just SIT on a horse for a MONTH and not do anymore? A week or a few days maybe but an entire month? Seriously!
Agreed. It's better for someone to ask questions and learn new ways of doing things (or just different perspectives) than to stick to their guns and stubbornly refuse to try new things.

"Strength is the ability to use a muscle without tension"
Skyseternalangel is offline  
Sponsored Links
post #22 of 24 Old 07-08-2013, 04:44 PM
Join Date: Feb 2008
Posts: 12,251
• Horses: 2
Originally Posted by Undante View Post
I bought a horse who is very good, but not broke. I intended to keep him at my neighbors and friend, but she only has 3 paddocks and a small outdoor arena with jumps. (like 15 acres). So I decided to keep him a few miles away at a facility with a trainer and all the goods (round pen ect) because I felt it would make my job much easier in training him. I told the BO this and warned him I planned on breaking him within two months so by the time august came I would be able to bring him home.
My horse is smart and very mild and we work so well together. I feel he is ahead of me. I haven't been training him much for the past few weeks as it has been raining pretty bad and no indoor arena. But now the BO has stopped helping me and I have started moving my horse ahead to where I think he is and I have even sat on him and had him at a walk with a side pull no bit! The BO comes out and when he sees me training he says I am moving too fast and skipping steps, but refuses to help me or show me what he is talking about. I feel he is just trying to prolong my stay there, and he gets mad when I don't buy things from his tack shop! I'm not totally sure he isn't right, but I feel my horse might be the kind that can skip steps. He drives, lunges, and takes a rider, just not bitted yet (working on that). Should I slow down? Or is this guy trying to take advantage of my young age and boss me around?
This might come out to blunt, but unless this BO is willing to take time to show what they feel should be done, ignore him. I have no respect for people who feel they know better, but they don't actually offer an explanation. Having said this, if this trainer is not being paid to help you, then he/she does not have to offer help; however they should have no said anything to you in the first place.

Do you have access to a trainer in your area who can help you bring this horse along?
MGTS and KigerQueen like this.
my2geldings is offline  
post #23 of 24 Old 07-08-2013, 04:53 PM
Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: Ontario
Posts: 17,193
• Horses: 0
I'll defend you. You're doing fine. Walk her lots and in large then smaller circles in both directions to teach her how to balance with your weight. Then serpentines. You can also teach her to move her hindquarters over when you move your leg back. Teach her to whoa when you relax your body. Give her a week off when you take her home so she can adjust then start with what she's good at for the first few days. Some of the best lessons may last only 10 min. if you untack her and put her away instead of practising.
KigerQueen likes this.
Saddlebag is offline  
post #24 of 24 Old 07-09-2013, 07:31 AM Thread Starter
Join Date: May 2013
Location: New York
Posts: 48
• Horses: 1
Thanks guys.

Just because I come here to ask a question does not mean I don't know what I am doing. Even the best and brightest people in ANYTHING sometimes ask for help or need advice. We are humans not gods.

Anyways...... my horse is coming along just great! He is bitted and has been ridden 2 times at a walk and a brisk trot (not longer than a full lap around the pin) The BO has finally shut his mouth and when he saw how great he was driving with the bit yesterday all he said was "hes coming along good huh?" I have to admit this has been the easiest horse I have ever broken. I will try to get a video today but I think it is going to rain.

Thanks for the support guys. I doubted myself, but I figured this horse was going to get bored if I went with the "standard timeline" to train a horse. He has just sped through everything with such calm.
Undante is offline  

Quick Reply

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on the The Horse Forum forums, you must first register.

Already have a Horse Forum account?
Members are allowed only one account per person at the Horse Forum, so if you've made an account here in the past you'll need to continue using that account. Please do not create a new account or you may lose access to the Horse Forum. If you need help recovering your existing account, please Contact Us. We'll be glad to help!

New to the Horse Forum?
Please choose a username you will be satisfied with using for the duration of your membership at the Horse Forum. We do not change members' usernames upon request because that would make it difficult for everyone to keep track of who is who on the forum. For that reason, please do not incorporate your horse's name into your username so that you are not stuck with a username related to a horse you may no longer have some day, or use any other username you may no longer identify with or care for in the future.

User Name:
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.


Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.

Email Address:


Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.

Old Thread Warning
This thread is more than 90 days old. When a thread is this old, it is often better to start a new thread rather than post to it. However, If you feel you have something of value to add to this particular thread, you can do so by checking the box below before submitting your post.

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
New Trainer Contradicting Previous Trainer jhoover Horse Training 3 08-07-2012 07:20 PM
Slowing Down. Mocha26 Barrel Racing 8 09-15-2011 07:37 PM
When the Trainer/Student relationship starts to feel strained... hotreddun Horse Training 51 04-01-2011 09:12 PM
Dressage trainer or Arab trainer? knaskedov Dressage 7 01-04-2010 09:20 PM
WANTED - ASSISTANT TRAINER S to NATURAL HORSEMANSHIP TRAINER Lolabydream Natural Horsemanship 0 03-23-2009 05:27 PM

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On

For the best viewing experience please update your browser to Google Chrome