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    08-23-2009, 12:02 AM
I just want to be done

I just want to be done with duchess and move on. I am almost reduced to tears I mean as I am writing this im holding back the tears. She will not pick up her left lead and it is just a fight with no one winning. Its like im stuck in a hole and its just getting deeper and deeper. And no there is nothing physically wrong with her. I have been battleing this for almost 2 years, this horse is 7 years old. My friend is bringing her round pen down to my place tomarow but at this point im not even sure if that will work. I know this sounds like a silly reason to give up, but you would have to be in my shoes to understand, its like I have nothing left to give, I have tried my all and im running out of try. Ilove this mare and it kills me knowing that I just can't make it work (yep now im crying). I don't want to sell her at all, but I mean what do I do, I can only try for so long. I never should of got her in the first place, it was stupid of me to, I wasnt ready for a green horse and I new it, but it was love at first sight with her. She deserves someone so much better than me, I hate knowing I am holding her back because of my lack of knowledge, I just hate myself, I don't want to ruin her, and I think its just time that I let her go. O my I am balling my eyes out now.
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    08-23-2009, 12:13 AM
My friend had a mare who would not pick up her right front. They couldn't figure out what was wrong. She showed no lameness but had an attitude problem. The vet couldn't figure it out either. So they randomly decided to take x rays of the leg. They then found out she had some sort of genetic problem in her knee that was making her not want to pick it up due to the pain she got when she loped.

Don't know... but maybe you want to try and get an x ray to see what is going on internally?
    08-23-2009, 12:19 AM
Ya, I guess I should see if its something internally.
    08-23-2009, 12:24 AM
Green Broke
Reining girl, don't give up I'm sure you will work something out. Maybe the round pen will work, we can only try:)
    08-23-2009, 12:41 AM
I hope it does.
    08-23-2009, 12:56 AM
Will she pick up that lead in a round pen? Or in circles, perhaps, off the rail? Maybe she just needs to shed a few more pounds for her body to feel balanced enough to pick up her "off" lead.

If you were closer, I'd let you try my Danni...I think he'd make a good barrel horse; I just know he probably won't be happy as a 'school horse', because he has to much get up and go, to suit students!
    08-23-2009, 01:00 AM
WHen I free lunge her, she picks up her leads beautifully. That's why I want to try the round pen, im wondering if she is just not comfortable enough to take her off lead out in the open, im thinking that she still needs the help of a round pen, if it gives her more comfort and balance.
    08-23-2009, 01:04 AM
You could also set up cones, or barrels in your arena, and use those as a 'reference' point to circle her around...they don't have to be in any particular patter, but it is easier to do 'random patterns' when you have a visual aid; helps you guide the horse easier. Try to canter your 'pattern' on regular leads, and counter cantering, which will help her learn how to balance easier. Make sure you are keeping your own body 'straight' so you are helping, rather than hindering her body movement.
    08-23-2009, 01:13 AM
I have barrels in there and that's what I normally do is try and use those as a reference point. She does not know how to counter canter and im afraid to teach it to her beacuse I don't want to ruin her. I don't realy even want to lope her anymore, because im afraid im going to ruin her, I probably already have. =(
    08-23-2009, 01:31 AM
No I doubt you have. As long as you have a good release of pressure, good timing, you can NEVER ruin a horse. I've done so much to mess up the horse that I started with, but I have good timing, so she's come out beautifully. Nine years later, mind you, but she did. Horses take time. Don't give up, hun, I'm sure she's just not comfortable or maybe you're just asking wrong. I know, everyone gets frustrated, but she will be fine. The only way I've seen people ruin a horse is abuse, and even then, it's not unfixable.

Try picking up on her nose on the inside and asking with your outside leg. That usually works for me. Or she may just be braced... Try having her step through her back legs... In other words, have her do a forehand turn and make her back legs cross over each other just like it was on her fronts. If she resists this a little, she'll do little hopping steps. I dunno, it worked for my mare. Good luck!


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