Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Australia, Queensland
i need advice
So I give my horse treats after I work him, but he's gotten to a point where he's a become a disaster to work with. My mum gives him carrots when I dissapear during when I'm working with him, and I know she does because I've seen her and the way he becomes so hyped and naughty and excited all of a sudden is obvious. Its really frustrating me, a week or so ago, he did something naughty, I raised my voice and gave him a thump and he backed off and immediately stopped it, which is to be expected. The all of a sudden my mum walks over and started rubbing his face and saying he didnt deserve it and I should be less hard. He is a 16.1hh thoroughbred that is only 6 years old and tests people out, I can't afford to be 'nice and let him get away with anything'. All the horses I've ever worked with they've never been allowed any leverage when being naughty but now that my mums gotten involved I see that I'm losing all my respect from him. I used to be able to walk him to the paddock, then when his halter is off, slip him a carrot, give him a rub and walk off but now when I finish working wth him and turn him towards the paddock, my mum grabs the bag of carrots(ruffling the bag) and he acts up all the way to the paddock, he swings around towards my mum, he tries to stop and then I get up him and my mum comes over closer and then my horse is fully focused on her. Its hard, I try and get my mum to move and she gets mad at me, I tell her to leave the bag, she refuses to. And now, by the time I get him to the paddock and in it, he wont stand still while I take the halter off and just takes off towards the paddock fence where my mum is with the bag of carrots. I'm honestly at my wits end, I've lost nearly all my control on the ground, my mother wont listen to me, just says its not her fault and he's just a naughty horse and i've been trying to talk my parents into aggisting him at my riding club so that she would be around him far less, and it would be me and horse experienced people who would be handling him but at the moment my mum says 'hes fine here, I can bring you up all the time.'
I'm honestly so stressed by all this I just don't know what to do, I've considered selling him before he gets fully ruined, I've tried to talk to my mum, I've tried only seeing him by myself (which has been good as he has his full respect back to me) but honestly I just don't know, so can someone please give me some advice. I've never had a horse that has never had respect for me so right now I'm completely out of my depth. We do so well together, but its just become so hard and I don't know how to gain back his focus on me when she's around.
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