I just wanted to add... Cherie, I think you need to work on the way you word things. If you want someone to listen to you and honestly consider your opinions you should offer them as ideas or options that, in your experience, have worked.
But inferring that they're stupid or incapable or a bad horse person, just because they don't use your methods isn't a great way to make someone want to do what you suggest. Luckily I can filter through your insults and find the true suggestion underneath, then I think it over and decide whether it would or wouldn't work in my situation. But I have to say, all the insults don't make me want to consider you're ideas very much.
I'm referring specifically to things like "Right now, she has you trained. It will stay that way until you figure out that she must learn..." She has not got me trained, she's horrified, and I have never let her fear stop her. Regardless of if she's scared or falling apart inside I keep at her until she does what I say. In that there is NO part where SHE has ME trained. She's scared, she needs to get over it. I need to figure out how to get her out of it. Which is exactly what I was asking for suggestions on how to do, so don't act like I don't know that, that's what I'm asking for.
You have very good ideas and methods, but you make it so hard for people to want to try them because you attack us first.
Things like "I told you a long time ago what I would do with her but you rejected" and "
So, do whatever YOU think will work. I would just ask: 'How's it working?'"
Those are attacks that make people close their mind to you're very good suggestions. You have a GREAT deal of experience and are VERY knowledgeable on how to handle/train horses. I just wish your messages could come through, but it's hard to filter out the attacks.
Sorry if that was out of bounds, I just see that as an ongoing thing in many of your posts. I hope you take that constructively - not as a personal attack, as that's not how it's meant.