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post #1 of 6 Old 11-16-2010, 03:23 PM Thread Starter
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I think they might be skipping out on me.

In late August I started to train a horse for the mother of a friend of mine. She later got three more, and asked me to train them too. As the time has progressed she takes care of her horses less and less, and I take care of them more and more. It had been progressing slightly but lately it's gotten really bad. She'll say things like "We won't be able to take care of the horses this week because my son has strep throat." Well, that's a good reason to stay home, but I saw her son in school all week, so obviously if he was sick enough she had to stay home with him 24/7, he wouldn't have been in school. This sunday she texted me and said "We probably won't be at the horses this week or next week because we have the flu." I've seen every one of her kids in school yesterday and today.
So my thing is, I think she might be skipping out on taking care of her horses. She said she would get me $300 of the $800 she owes me this month, and I haven't heard from her about it, which leads me to believe she might be skipping out on paying me too. Every time I call her she says things like "I gotta go, the boys are misbehaving.", or "I have another call."
I think the smart thing to do would be to tell her I'm not going to where the horses are pastured until I hear from her about my payment and she starts taking responsibility. But I know that if I don't go there, nobody will. I would feel too bad for the horses and I don't want all the progress I've made with them to be lost. So my question is, is there anybody who has been in the same predicament as me, and if so, how did you deal with it? Any advice is greatly appreciated.
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post #2 of 6 Old 11-16-2010, 04:17 PM
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Do you have a contract with her? Are you training and boarding them at your house? I know it's hard, but I would send her a certified letter or some sort of official notice outlining a payment schedule for the back money she owes & fees for caring for her horses on a daily basis.

I've spent most of my life riding horses. The rest I've just wasted.
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post #3 of 6 Old 11-16-2010, 04:23 PM
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They're not your horses or your responsibility.

I agree with Zimpatico. Send her a certified, registered, return receipt letter stating that until you see some money, you can no longer train/care for her horses.

She's using you, plain and simple.
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post #4 of 6 Old 11-17-2010, 01:06 PM
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Keep a good record of everything that you are spending to keep the horses, as well as what she owes you for training. Unless you have some proof of what you have spent then it will be tough for you to get your money back.

Do you have a signed training agreement with her about how much she should be paying for you to look after the horses? A certified letter is a good idea because you'll know she received it.
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post #5 of 6 Old 11-17-2010, 02:38 PM
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I agree with sending a letter, and as hard as it is, I wouldn't work with them in a "training" capacity until she pays you something. Obviously if you have free time, or are driving by already or something, then by all means if you want to go check on them do so, but just know that that's something separate from the training that you are doing for your own peace of mind. She is definitely taking advantage of you, avoiding the topic by saying things like "we won't be out we're sick" or "I've got a call on the other line", which means that you don't even have the time to really bring up the subject, and she doesn't have to make an excuse for not having the money. Hopefully sending the letter will make her realize that she can't take advantage of you, and will help her shape up. Good luck.
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post #6 of 6 Old 11-18-2010, 06:50 PM Thread Starter
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Great advice. Thanks! I really appreciate it.
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