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post #1 of 58 Old 05-05-2013, 09:24 PM Thread Starter
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I want to train horses, my mom knows this - but won't let me help train new horse??

We got a new horse a few days ago. He is seven and is a rocky mountain horse. -Don't worry! I'll get photos when I can!

Well, one thing I want to do in life is to train horses. I am good at it and I want to get so much better and have training experience. Our Horse's previous owner did hardly anything with him.
The owner:
Didn't do any groundwork whatsoever.
Never fed the horse from his hands.
Didn't ride much - and never really rode western.
With more, but my mind is blank...(I rode trails today and yesterday, that is after I went diving for carrots in a bucket...hey! No one told me they sink!! and three days of driving to get the horse.)

The horse:
Has never been backed out of a trailer.
Doesn't back often.
Still needs work on being ridden.
Needs to be taught groundwork.
Needs to work on not trotting - he is gaited. So I guess that means he isn't allowed to trot because the gaited horses are meant to keep all the feet on the ground.
Needs to be taught being caught properly. The Owner let the horse do whatever to be caught. He would go up to a corner and had to be approached from behind in order to get a halter on.
Should learn to be hand fed - like treats and wormer stuff.
Just a lot of things.....

My mom knows I want to be a trainer - and she even says I am very good with it and she said to the owner that I was better than her in most ways.
But I just don't know why she won't let me help train him to be more advanced. She knows I can help and I would be good with it, I asked her and that's what she said.

I guess what I am asking is, Do any of you maybe know why she won't let me - even after her support for me??
I just don't know why and she won't say why either. It's jsut kind of confusing.

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post #2 of 58 Old 05-05-2013, 09:35 PM
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Maybe shes afraid you will do a better job than her. In other words, she dont want to be showed up by her daughter.
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post #3 of 58 Old 05-05-2013, 10:04 PM
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No one can answer for your mother but your mother…

I'd suggest you sit down with her and have a chat about how important this is to you...
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post #4 of 58 Old 05-05-2013, 10:50 PM
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If you asked me that question directly, I'd say she doesn't want you to get hurt.
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post #5 of 58 Old 05-06-2013, 09:40 PM
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If you asked me that question directly, I'd say she doesn't want you to get hurt.
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I agree.
I gotta say, your post sounds really bratty to me. Your mother said no. Be glad you have a horse at all that you can pet. She has her reasons, be respectful.

My daughter also loves the horse. She is NOT allowed in the barn without me, why? Many reasons 1. She's 6. 2. I have two young horses and 3. the most important, I SAID SO.

Mind your mother.
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post #6 of 58 Old 05-06-2013, 09:45 PM
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Well maybe itd be best for you to watch her and see how she does it, she prolly doesnt want you to get hurt or screw up a horse. It wouldnt be wise to just let you train him alone.
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My question is, was the horse bought as a horse primarily for you, primarily for your mom, or to be equally shared?

If the horse was bought with the idea that he would be primarily your mom's horse, it is understandable that she might want to do most of the work with him herself. It increases the bond and understanding between a horse and rider. Maybe she would like the opportunity to become a better trainer/horse handler herself.
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Who was this horse purchased for? If it was bought for your mom, I imagine she wants to work with it & bond with it on her own. Bottom line, your mom said "No", respect that.
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Seems all you do is rant about your parents. First its your dad being a big mean poopy head because you were told to clean your room. Now your mad because your mom wont let you train a green horse.

Maybe its time to take a step back and question if its you. Because it sure doesn't seem like you are very grateful for anything your parents do for you.

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My answer to this is that you are not ready to start training a horse.

None of the things you mention is vitally important.
I never hand feed my horses.
I never spend hours doing ground work. I just teach and correct anything as I daily handle them.
The horse may have never had to back out of the trailer, and it is not hard for them to learn.
There are many horses that have not been ridden western.
Many gaited horses also trot and, if they have to keep all their feet on the ground they would not move very far!
Catching a new horse can be hard because they are in a strange place with strangers so wary.

If you are exhausted after being driven to get a horse, riding two days on the trails and diving for carrots then you are very unfit for a 14 year old.

I would say your mother is testing the horse to see if it is safe for you to get involved.
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