Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: I was born in Germany, raised in Texas.
Well, as an almost 40 year old mother of 6 kiddos, 3 of which are teenagers, I can just about guarantee you without much doubt that she wants you to be safe. I have a rule at my house, and it doesn't matter how old you are, if I'm not out there, you will not set foot into the horse pen. Period. The way my kids gain their baby steps of freedom around the horses here is they earn them. If you want to be out there with them, you will follow my rules, and I will eventually "loosen the reins" on you. I have a 9 year old that I would trust more around our horses than our 16 year old only because she is ALWAYS out there when I'm out there and she has learned to read them, she expects their respect, and she watches my every move. She is also out there for the more "unpleasant" stuff like cleaning the barn, scrubbing out water troughs, and caring for injuries. And yet, she will not question my decisions. She doesn't realize it but she is learning and gaining MY confidence in her abilities every time we open the barn door. And it's not because she's reading it in books or watching it on Youtube. It's like letting your teenager have the keys to your car. You don't just buy them a new car and say, OK. Have at it. Show me what you got. You work with your teen, you drive with your teen and eventually you will earn my confidence. And if it's after 10pm and I'm not comfortable with letting you drive, whether you've had your license for 6 days or 6 months, it just ain't happening! ;) And oh, please don't ever let me find one of my kids questioning my decisions on an open forum like this. Wouldn't be good. She's your mom. She only has what's best for you in mind. Believe me, we're not just out to make your life miserable. Quite the contrary. There's nothing more exciting than watching your child work and be good at something that has been a life passion for yourself. I never had parents who were nuts about horses like I was. It's such a gift to get to share it with your children. BUT, I also know from many many years of experience, including training, that a split second can put you in the hospital even when you kind of know what you're doing so please don't question your mom's intentions. Wish her a Happy Mother's Day on Sunday! She deserves it. :)