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    09-17-2012, 09:10 PM
I'm Frightened... By my Horse

I took your guys' advice with how to handle my standardbred. Suddenly, the cool collected mare I once had turned into a teeth lashing, scardy cat. And now I'm afraid. Afraid of my own horse. It feels shameful to admit it and I know it's really stupid for Me to be afraid it's just that whenever I put her halter on, and lead her around if I don't do what she wants she starts to bite. Her ears go back the whole time I'm around and suddenly I can't see that calm horse no more. I know she was neglected for a large part of her life, but when I correct her (hit her on the nose) she shies away. And is afraid of Me to touch her. I have a feeling she senses my fear, but how can I stop being afraid if she bites and hates Me?
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    09-17-2012, 09:17 PM
Do you have a professional trainer you can work with? I am not sure I have a solid picture of what is going on. It sounds like an on the ground help is what you need.
    09-17-2012, 09:22 PM
Originally Posted by rookie    
Do you have a professional trainer you can work with? I am not sure I have a solid picture of what is going on. It sounds like an on the ground help is what you need.
No I can't afford a trainer. It's not in my budget :) I do have a friend that helps Me but she isn't always available. Anymore suggestions?
    09-17-2012, 09:22 PM
Don't hit her nose. Pet her, rub her, gain her trust before you do anything
    09-17-2012, 09:27 PM
Ugh, the problem with giving advise online is that it varies so very much in the moment. Horses need to be dealt with in real time and immediately.

I'd suggest that you stop working the horse altogether and find someone locally who can help you.
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    09-17-2012, 09:28 PM
Barrelracer00: Won't she think that by biting shell just get my affection an love? How do I scold her then?
    09-17-2012, 09:37 PM
If she was cool before you started doing what you're doing now, maybe try to remember what you were doing when she was cool and go back to doing that.
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    09-17-2012, 09:38 PM
Barrel, petting her and "loving her" when she's biting is very dangerous advice. This mare needs a leader, not a friend.
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    09-17-2012, 09:43 PM
I don't want to offend you and I don't mean this as harsh as it might sound, but I know no better way to word it.

After browsing your posts here, I strongly suspect that you are in way over your head with this mare. She has issues that you aren't equipped or experienced enough to deal with and I, for one, am very hesitant to suggest anything beyond "get professional help" for fear that things might go very wrong and you get hurt.

I don't know how much experience you have with horses, specifically with training them, but just from the sounds of your posts, you appear to be pretty much a novice. Is she your first horse? Your first untrained horse? If so, then you're going to need help beyond what we would be able to provide over the internet.

If you don't have the funds to find a professional to help you get to the root of the issues with your mare and help you to get them corrected, then I fear that the both of you will end your relationship even more frustrated than you are now with one or both of you injured.

My best suggestion to you if you can't afford a trainer? You need to re-home the horse. If you're afraid of her then you are just compounding the problem and your relationship with her will never fix itself without serious professional help and a lot of time and effort and gained knowledge on both your parts. You would have a much more fulfilling horse owning experience if you had a horse that was broke and you could safely handle/ride them and then save up your money for some lessons.
    09-17-2012, 09:47 PM
Green Broke
I have to agree with smrobs.
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