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    04-16-2009, 10:54 AM
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Weanling
I'm getting frustrated... (rant. be warned)

I'm about ready to just put down everything and give up. Magic is a sweet horse, but he's so stubborn and I cannot match him in strength. I'm sure he's about 15x my size. His big problem is coming out of the barn. There's a little bit of mud in front of the entrances to the barn and when I try to lead him out, he won't follow me. Then it comes down to a battle of brawn, and he always wins. He's made me cry the last two days. He also doesn't pay attention when he's anywhere near the barn, so in order to lunge him, I have to go way out in the pasture. I can't bring all of my jump stuff out there, so he's getting no jumping practice at all.

Riding him is just as hard. I'm only able to ride bareback right now because I'm waiting on my saddle and my girth to come in. No matter how hard I kick him, he refuses to move. I have had to use a whip on him to get him to trot and sometimes just to get him to walk, which I hate. I eventually want him to go when I squeese my legs, but I have no idea how to do it!

He's a basically untrained 3-year old ex-racehorse. I think I'm going in to this unprepared. I am used to working with push-button horses who do what I want them to. I think my patience has been kinda whittled away into nothing. I really want to work with him because I already love him, but I really can't handle the physical and emotional stress that has come in the last few days.

Also, I don't own him. I am "leasing" him. I'm paying for his feed, feet, and vet bills while his owner is at the track doing her ponying thing. As soon as she gets back at the end of the summer, he's hers. She's planning on taking him to the track to turn him into a pony horse. I'm not being payed for training him. I'm actually paying her so I can train him. She will get all of the profit off of my hard work. I'm starting to think it's not worth it. I really don't want to give up, but I don't know how much longer I can handle it.
     
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    04-16-2009, 03:16 PM
  #2
Weanling
That's got to be incredibly tough on you! Not sure how you feel about it, but is there any possibility of you 'leasing to own'? Otherwise, from a strictly personal standpoint, I would lease a different, better trained horse - if you don't want to be a paying trainer, it's just not worth it in my mind to risk injury. If you want to stick with him, I would suggest reviewing his ground manners with a nose chain on. Sometimes those off the track horses can really be a bear to deal with. Good luck, either way, and I hope something here helped.
     
    04-16-2009, 03:20 PM
  #3
Weanling
Even if she were able to do a lease to own situation it just doesn't sound like a very good match. If you can find a qualified instructor in your area to come out and give you some tips. If you are not confident riding him bareback and really getting after him to listen I would suggest not riding at all as you are only teaching him to ignore your cues. Sounds like he's got your number and he probably just doesn't know what you're asking out of him.
     
    04-16-2009, 07:09 PM
  #4
Weanling
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Originally Posted by amightytarzan5    
Magic is a sweet horse, but he's so stubborn and I cannot match him in strength. Then it comes down to a battle of brawn, and he always wins.

Riding him is just as hard. No matter how hard I kick him, he refuses to move. I have had to use a whip on him to get him to trot and sometimes just to get him to walk, which I hate.

He's a basically untrained 3-year old ex-racehorse. I think I'm going in to this unprepared. I am used to working with push-button horses who do what I want them to. I think my patience has been kinda whittled away into nothing. I really want to work with him because I already love him, but I really can't handle the physical and emotional stress that has come in the last few days.

I'm starting to think it's not worth it. I really don't want to give up, but I don't know how much longer I can handle it.
No, you will NEVER win against a horse in a brute strength battle. I'm not sure what an "untrained ex-racehorse" is, sounds like he does have some training, but not the training you are used to. I don't know you or your riding level, but you even say that you are going into this unprepared, & are used to push button horses. I agree with the others, it sounds like you are in over your head. You can love him all you want....but if you get this worked up & upset, it's not worth it. You are risking injury to you and/or the horse....and more than likely you will be the 1 hurt. I'd say get another trainer in to help out, or love him from afar.
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    04-17-2009, 09:22 AM
  #5
Weanling
I think things will get better for me once our round pen comes in and I can join up with him and get him to trust me. He's actually amazing on the ground. He's not pushy or anything like that. His only problem is walking through mud after me. We're working on it though.

I went out yesterday and I really got him listening to my cues. I used the ask, tell, command system. I put my hand forward, clicked, and squeezed. If he still didn't go, I kicked. If he still didn't go, I whipped. I got to where I could squeeze, click, and then give a slight kick and he went. I was very pleased.

My trainer said she would come and help me sometime, and I call her when I have problems and she gives me some tips. I think that there's a lot of personal issues in my life right now and it's affecting the way I act around him. I'm normally not agressive, but I realized that I have been a little in-his-face. I'm going to try and really relax at the barn and put all of that behind me and just concentrate on him.

There's also a possibility that his owner would sell him to me. She told my friend that she wants a horse who already ponies anyway and the money she could get from me for magic would be enough to buy one. So if Magic and I end up working well together, then it's a possibility.

I'm going to stick with it for a little bit longer and see what happens. Thanks y'all for the moral support. :)

ETA: I think this is a great experience for me, because I want to be an equitaiton trainer/instructor when I get older, so I need the experience. Magic's the only horse available anywhere close to me for me to ride/lease.
     

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