SonnyWimps: I won't be giving him any more treats by hand,
Each to his own on that, but it's not what
reinforcement you use but when & what you reinforce
with it as to causing bad manners. If the bad behaviour isn't directly associated at the time
with food, then it isn't related anyway.
now anyway. I feel I deserve some respect from him. I've never done anything for him to not trust me or anything like that.
But he obviously thinks the same - he
deserves it from you
. I believe respect to be a two way street - you need to have respect for
someone in order to earn it from them. It can be a hard nut to crack with many horses. I agree sounds like a good trainer, instructor, mentor...
He's only 4yo, so is at a big have fun, test boundaries stage. From what you've said, it sounds like it's more of a leftbrained, conscious kind of affair - more related to confident, dominant types. But you also say he's headshy and he could be fearful and reacting about more than you think. That of course would make a difference in the way you might handle things.
Another question: When I was working him in the roundpen after he kicked me and after he was pretty tired, he basically stopped listeing to me, no matter how much I cracked the whip. Any tips for that? I even swatted his butt with it and that got him going but then ten steps later he had his head back over the rail....
Perhaps you are one who continues to crack the whip, wave the stick, whatever, and your horse is becoming desensitised to it? Perhaps he was just fed up too, decided to again assert himself. Perhaps he was becoming confused & worried about what you wanted.