Okay, so he's going in calmly and standing and backing out slowly. Great. Now it's time to put up the butt bar. I have a two horse straight load with a ramp. But bar goes up and BAM!! He EXPLODES! He is panicking and pushing so hard against the butt bar and his back legs are just scrambling to beat the band! I'm watching this in the next stall (yeah I know, stupid!) and I calmly tell hubby to go around the front of the trailer(didn't want him crossing behind in case the bar broke and Walka landed on him) and wait for my signal to undo the butt bar. After what seemed like minutes, although I realize it was seconds, Walka stops and I ask him very quietly to step forward and when he does I calmly tell hubby to undo the butt bar. Understand there was noting calm about this situation, but with a panicking horse, anything but calm tone and movements would have just worsened this moment and I realized this, thank goodness.
Walka stands a few more seconds just shaking like a leaf and then I calmly say "back". He does , just a hair faster then normal, but not rushing.
I took a deep breath, maybe several, and asked him to go forward into the trailer. He did but not all the way. He was very tense (who could blame him) and we worked calmly for another hour, until he let out a very deep breath while 1/2 way in. I knew that he wouldn't go any further that night. So that's where we ended , along with a few simple ground exercises in leading.
I know that this is out of my league. I will have to find a trainer to help me, but would like to hear from anyone that has experienced a similar situation and what did you do?
Understand, whatever you say, I will not go out and "try" it as I truly feel I need an experienced trainer in this situation. But I would feel better to know that someone out there has been through this, and got their horse through it and that there is hope.
Sorry for the novel... taking a deep breath now.