Originally Posted by daroczy
The best horse for you is a 10-14 years old crossbred from a riding school which has been used for a school horse. They ususally don't look as well as a tb, but you will find more pleasure and self-confidency in riding.
If the horse is too much for you and you are afraid to even get on his back, then maybe the horse isn't the right one for you. I can't say there aren't things that I'm afraid to do with my horse...cantering is still my weak part...but I can do everything else with him.
If you REALLY want to keep the TB, start lessons. Use a lesson horse that is good for beginners and work with that horse all the time till your confidence builds up. Have someone else or your instructor ride your horse, so she gets excersize. Ride the lesson horse until you feel confident enough. Then switch to a different lesson horse, and do that one until you feel confident. Then do a lesson with your mare...the SECOND you get nervous...get off. And get on the lesson horse. Being frightened on a horse is the worst thing you can do.
If you are going to find a new horse, get one that is FULLY trained...previous lesson horse, and that is roughly 10-15 years of age. Ride the horse BEFORE you buy him/her. Ride him more than once...as many times as possible. Do a lesson with the horse (I did that with my horse before I bought him), and judge.