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post #11 of 18 Old 01-17-2011, 01:20 PM
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it sounds to me like she's a little bored, (shaking her head up and down & being dull to senses) my boy was the same & used to smack his lips together when he got bored. Try doing new things with her, the tricks & lunging like I said, and when you're riding her try doing different things to keep her focus :) can you jump? Or is there anywhere you can go out for a trail ride? Try that & see if it makes a difference :)
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post #12 of 18 Old 01-17-2011, 01:26 PM Thread Starter
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Ok thanks for the ideas. I cannot jump (my trainer doesn't know how to do it and I doubt Psymara could do it because she has a hard time picking up her front feet, hence the tripping). There are some trails, can't do anything now because of the snow, but my trainer doesn't always like us going out there because people hunt there. But I could try asking him again or we can walk down the road.
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post #13 of 18 Old 01-17-2011, 02:02 PM
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Ok thanks for the ideas. I cannot jump (my trainer doesn't know how to do it and I doubt Psymara could do it because she has a hard time picking up her front feet, hence the tripping). There are some trails, can't do anything now because of the snow, but my trainer doesn't always like us going out there because people hunt there. But I could try asking him again or we can walk down the road.
oh okay. Well just anything different for her that she's not used to will do the trick hopefully :)
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post #14 of 18 Old 01-17-2011, 09:21 PM
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My horse is like that too. Doing a lot of in-hand work leading, backing, turning, stretching, etc. and lots of cookies has helped. She will even let me catch her out in the field (which she used to not do) but she is still very independent and would rather not be "fussed" over. I think she always will be.
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post #15 of 18 Old 01-17-2011, 10:25 PM
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My mare was like that. The first breakthru came after about 4 months, when my wife and I spent much of the night walking with her during a bout of colic. She seemed to understand that we were there when she needed someone. The next step was when she figured out that fly spray wiped on her face meant the flies stayed away. She also eventually figured out that hoof cleaning sometimes meant a painful stone went away.

Fast forward 2.5 years. She is NOT lovey-dovey. Much of the time there is some reserve there - but she now expects face rubs before and after riding. If someone is standing at the corral, she USUALLY walks over for a short greeting. And every once in a while - maybe 1 time every 10 rides, at the end she'll push her face under my arm, and spend a minute...snuggling? Whatever it is, when it finishes she looks around as if to see if anyone caught her at it...

Another mare we had wanted to climb into your lap every time she saw you. This one is much more reserved, but it makes it all the more meaningful when she does let her guard down. And yes, it has been 2.5 years!

As a person once told me, sometimes you have to love them for what they are, and not for what they can never be.
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post #16 of 18 Old 01-18-2011, 11:35 AM
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I'm sorry to hear that! My horse is 8 and she was trained by my trainer, I know he can be a little harsh, but not enough that would cause issues. I'm pretty sure he uses Clinton Anderson's method...

I think my horse is a little dull in the senses (if you know what I mean). She shakes her head up and down to entertain herself. And she trips a lot. But after she trips (even if I go flying off her) she gets up and pretends it didn't happen. Like seriously, I look at her and it's like the past 30 seconds didn't happen. It's really weird...
Oh well, I don't think Anderson's method is harsh either.
Th's kinda funny about her pretending nothing happened...I know an arab like that, she runs with her head touching her side. She's kinda dull!

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post #17 of 18 Old 01-18-2011, 11:59 AM
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When I first got my mare 15 years ago I spent a lot of time just hanging out with her for a couple of weeks. I did a lot of hand grazing with her for a couple of hours everyday. I'd put her halter and lead rope on and she would eat the grass the whole 2 hours or so all the while I was talking to her and rubbing on her.
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post #18 of 18 Old 01-18-2011, 03:52 PM
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Sounds like she has been bounced around a lot with different handlers if she is in a lease at a large? Barn. My gelding was very aloof when I got him, but once I earned his trust we were been bonded for life. I think a lot of arabs are one-person horses, and when not treated according to their personality, become indifferent and sort of shut off.

I also wanted to point out that this certainly can occur with other breeds too. I was at a barn where a lot of force was used with the horses and little regard was paid to their personality. Since they were mostly tb's, and having a bad experience with a mean tb myself, I began to think that it was just the breed. I now lease a tb who is wonderful and sweet. The difference: he is at a much better barn and has not had too many different riders. All in all, he has really changed my opinion about the breed and caused me to be much more open-minded.

I would just spend some time grooming and doting on her to show her that you recognize her as an individual and not just "a horse." As others have said, try to spend more time caring for her, and mix it up a bit to keep her happy being ridden. If you can get through to her, her personality will likely change dramatically.

Good luck, and this is by no means a stupid question ;)
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