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post #11 of 14 Old 07-07-2012, 10:30 PM
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OP, there's nothing wrong with getting off and correcting behavior with lunging on the ground.

I was injured very badly 2 years ago in a motorcycle accident, one month after getting my first horse in 30 years. I did not have the leg strength or balance to walk much less rideand my horse needed a lot of work so I studied CAnderson basics and just started at the beginning.

Whenever i felt afraid she would be "rough," i jumped off and corrected her from the ground, making her lunge until she was ready to be more compliant. CA said there was nothing wrong with that, to my relief. I'm finally feeling confident enough to ride her through balking, etc because my strength and balance have improved, but I still will jump off and correct from the ground because it is safer and it WORKS. I find that working with my horses from the ground is also satisfying. I don't have to always ride to enjoy horsemanship.

You don't have to "ride it out" to make a good horse or to be good rider. Safety is important. And your horse can always benefit from a step back in training. If you are worried your horse will hurt you in the saddle, work it from the ground until you are BOTH more confident.
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post #12 of 14 Old 07-07-2012, 10:41 PM Thread Starter
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Sunny has never tried to rear or buck. Just backs, sidesteps and tosses her head. She is barn sour. I have had a friend come over and that helped but she still didn't want to leave the barn area.
To the other poster in Ok I live in SE ok near McAlester. I would love to have a place to ride. I think trust is my biggest issue with this horse. She has spooked on the ground and has a real issue with being tied. If I want to fly spray her I've learned to hold onto the lead rope. She lounges nicely but freaks out if I use a lunge whip, I move her with the end of the rope. She has broken 1 lounge line and a lead rope. The lead rope when she was tied and freaked out when I tried to spray her.
When I bought her she was perfect. I felt comfortable on her in a few minutes. She was underweight and now is in good shape. I think that may have a lot to do with her temperment change.
She has 3 acres of pasture and I feed her grass hay and a small flake of alfalfa every night. No grain. She also gets a few treats every night.
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post #13 of 14 Old 07-07-2012, 11:25 PM
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Well, there are plenty of folks in our 50's and behond who can relate to your emotional state there. I get fearful when the horse I ride is afraid. Along with the great advice to ride out with other people, if you have some chances to just ride in the arena or round pen to build on your seat. part of being ok with side passes or sudden movements is knowing that you won't come off just from that. If you have a strong enough seat, you won't worry too much about those things, you'll just accept them the same way you accept the weather. Horses do move around a lot in unpredictable ways, but usually it's just a step or too, and they stop. Shying scares me a lot, but 99% of the time, I don't come off and it's over in a milisecond and the world goes on and nothing bad happens. If you can have a strong enough seat, from riding in the arena and literally strengthening your legs and core muscles, you will feel less apt to stress the small stuff.

your being less panicked about small, unexpected movements will translate to your mare as you being confident overall. When you ride with the horse throught a spook, and just keep going, the horse feels less threatened by your lack of balance than if you grip like a leach.

I know, easier said than done. But the stronger you can be physically, and the more accepting you can be of the smaller, sudden sideways movements (without gripping or yanking on the mouth) the more your horse will trust YOU.
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post #14 of 14 Old 07-08-2012, 03:53 PM Thread Starter
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Well I made some progress, Today I went to a friends house and rode with her. We started out in the round pen then moved into the pasture. She did pretty good. She did spook in the pasture but i stayed on woo hoo. I didn't panic and rode till we got to hot.
She did real well when she was hosed off and loaded and unloaded with no problem.
My friend was very helpful. She noticed that I'm not firm with Sunny and encouraged me to not be so timid with her. If I ask for Whoa then she needs to stop not side step or keep going. She told me to circle her and try again. Had to do this a couple of times before I could make her whoa and stayed stopped.
Thank you for all the helpful comments, it's good to know other people suffer from the same fears I do
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