MM, you had a relationship breakdown with an Arab a few months ago, where your riding buddy had to fill in for you, & you asked for help here. I pm'd you, saying that if you'd look into PP groundwork/psychology, it'd help you, but you're so against it. I think that this is horse #2, but it's a repeat of a relationship breakdown between you & your horse.
Then TLO gives you good advice, & you snark "quit preaching NHS!"
You'd think, that with these ongoing relationship problems that you're having with horses, that you'd BE APPRECIATIVE of others' efforts to help, & HAVE A TEACHABLE SPIRIT!
As TLO said, you have to understand that it's not about CONTROL THAT HORSE, it's about a RELATIONSHIP WITH that horse.
You must get off the CONTROL her, TIE her till you BREAK her spirit, & all other PREDATORY behaviors. Plus, I will add, especially since you're dealing with Arabs! They are too sensitive, they take offense to predatory acts very acutely, & sometimes hold grudges, if they see that the predator is still into being a predator, underneath a smaill surface change of behavior modification. With Arabs, you'd better be prepared for true emotional growth, into a HORSEperson.
You must instead develop into the kind of leader she needs, by developing a RELATIONSHIP with her.