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post #1 of 16 Old 06-07-2013, 05:30 PM Thread Starter
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I have a 4 year old twh mare. She's got a hard mouth but I'm working on that. We are both learning as we go. I've had her for 2 years and she has never done anything to make me afraid of her but I did have a fall on a different horse and now I get nervious when I ride her outside. Anyone have any confidence building ideas/tips that will help? Idk if it help but she is barefoot and I don't have a round pen/ arena area to ride in. But I do have 75 acres of trails. I'm not that fluent in "horse talk" and don't know what alot of terms mean. Also this is my first horse and I'm not that great or a rider. I don't know what the proper position and stuff is.
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post #2 of 16 Old 06-07-2013, 05:42 PM
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I have a 4 year old twh mare.
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Also this is my first horse and I'm not that great or a rider.
What I am reading is two inexperienced creatures trying to make it work. Do you have someone available near you that you could work with/ride with/learn with?
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post #3 of 16 Old 06-07-2013, 08:12 PM Thread Starter
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I live at a show horse barn. My husband is a trainer but with 44 other horses to train and shows almost every week he doesn't have much time to help me. So here I am. She is a great horse who has A TON of patients because she has yet to leave me to walk back to the barn. Lol I got her as a 2 yr. Old who was started to be a show horse then sent to pasture for a year. She stayed at a customer's pasture till I got her. After coming to the barn she was ridden twice before my I rode her. I've done the majority of her training but I don't really know much. She has a hard mouth and I'm working.on that with a snaffle bit but I want her to be the best she can be.
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post #4 of 16 Old 06-07-2013, 08:28 PM
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Maybe there's another good, seasoned, and knowledgeable rider @ the barn willing to help? There's sure to be if it's that large! You sound as confident as can be in this situation, and glad to hear that if you must use a bit (I choose to ride 100% bitless) it's a gentle one. By all means don't resort to anything harsher thinking that will 'solve the issue', when it may not. I'd start 'feeling out the situation' at the barn and befriend someone who is wise, and like-minded. Best of luck! :)
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post #5 of 16 Old 06-07-2013, 09:47 PM Thread Starter
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I would LOVE to try a bitless bridle.but I worried about control. I have a rope halter with attached lead I was thinking of trying. I don't know where to attach the reins or if its too tight/ loose. Got any advice?
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A bitless bridle does not equate in any way to a halter with reins attached. It uses pressure points -- if you want to try it, you need to actually have a bitless bridle.

That said... maybe there is another strong rider on a calm horse that would be willing to ride with you? How can such a large show horse barn not have an arena or round pen? Are you comfortable riding anywhere with this horse? On any horse? Maybe you need some time on a steady, calm mount to get your own confidence up. If you can ride another horse for a while, I would just continue lots of ground work with your 4 yr. Old and improve your own skills for a while.
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post #7 of 16 Old 06-12-2013, 11:20 AM Thread Starter
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I have the only pleasure horse here. We have a small and large dirt ring to ride in. And we had a round pen until a clients mare foaled now it was enlarged to make a small paddock for the mare and foal to be turned out during the day.I am pretty confident on most other horses and I was fine on mine until I had an accident on a different horse that stumbled and fell. It was no ones fault that we both got hurt but I've been nervious about riding since. I'm doing better though. But my horse gets excited when I take her outside of the barn. She does well with other horses( we did alot of trail riding last year) but gets antsy/excited when alone. I've been taking her on small trips outside and staying close to the barn but the further we go the antsier she gets.
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One more thing. (Sorry its so long) once we get about 1000 feet from the barn(but still well in sight of it) she calms right down and relaxes. But again I've never gotten her that far by herself.
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Just want to add that while she does fine with company on a trail ride I probably wouldnt take her trail riding by my self. Mostly because our "trails" are really no more then deer paths through the woods. And I have a REALLY bad sense of direction and would probably get lost.
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Why don't you try just walking her in hand away from the barn?
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