Thanks for the advice, will give the crop a try first, (from the ground). She has always been a lazy horse, but never this bad, on trail rides she hates being in the back and will walk fast until she is in front and then slow way down. Once I get her moving at the pace I want her to I do stop bumping her sides, (gives my poor legs a break too) but it doesn't take long and she is slowing down again.
She pretty much had a good month off as I was too busy helping my daughter plan and prepare for her wedding, and now that I have time again and am back to riding she is like, "are you crazy? I want the rest of the summer off too!" I do want to take her on a trail ride, waiting for the neighbor to have time, as I am alone and am not ready to take her out of the arena by myself. (that little scared monster again) I have been working on my confidence and getting her to keep her attention on me rather then everything around us.
When I first got her, I was very very timid, which she picked up on, and she pretty much spooked at everything. I now realize its because I wasn't paying attention to her but to everything around us and thinking to myself, oh crap, hold on she might spook at that, and of course she did. She never bolted or anything, she just stops and locks up with her head very high, tensed up ready to bolt, and then I would say, ok getting off before I am thrown off. I now realize it was my fault and have been riding more as an active rider rather then reactive. If she stops paying attention to me and looks at something else in the distance, I do in place things, like disengaging her haunches, flexation exercises, and rollbacks to name a few. When she is paying attention to me again, then we move on. This is giving me more confidence in riding her as I can prove to myself that I can get her to listen to me and do what I ask. Thanks for the advice, and keep it coming!