What is the best method of getting everyone use to each other? I have a new gelding and a new mare. Naturally the mare came in heat the first day we had her. One of my old geldings became very studly and possessive of her. I pulled him out of the pasture and put him by himself because he was a menence to the others. I put what I thought would be the lowest man in the pecking order (and he was) but he was so low down that he didn't show the two new horses the "ropes" so to speak. I wanted him to show them how to come to the barn when called. He won't come now, because the new gelding who doesn't understand coming to the barn and is actually sorta afraid of the barn (cows/chickens) is higher in the pecking order and won't allow him to go first. So now I thought I'd put another gelding in that pasture but he is higher status and I don't want any fights. So what do you do to get everyone friendly?
Second question... the new horse will lead most of the time just fine. But, sometimes he refuses to budge and even backs away scared. He doesn't rear but throws his head up sniffing and blowing. Yesterday trying to lead him to the barn and food, we would take two steps forward and back up 5. It took a bout 15 minutes of coaxing him before he would come into the barn where he has been several times already. He knows there is food there. Although they are in a pasture that has good grass so they are not real hungry.
So basically-how do you teach a balky horse to lead, and how do you get everyone to be friends quicker with no bloodshed or running thru fences???