And now I'm wondering: does such a thing exist? I want that bond, I'll be the first to admit it, and to some degree it's always bothered me that my horse merely tolerates me-she has never shown any real affection or indication that she enjoys my company. No matter what we've done together, always in the back of my mind has been: "Why don't you like me? Please, please like me!"
I've been told that kind of relationship is not real-it's not in a horse's nature to feel the same way about relationships as we do. So yesterday, I went out to work with my horse, resigned to the fact that she doesn't like me so I may as well move on with my life.
For the first time in a long time, I didn't see my adorable, beautiful baby pony; I saw a horse. I was much more demanding and strict with her than I usually am, and any emotional ties I had to her didn't affect my behaviour. And guess what? She was really good. She was good, because finally I was treating her like a horse and truly, honestly didn't care whether she liked me or not. And, dare I say it, she even looked half interested in me.
Now I'm seeing that real, true respect is what's going to get me places with her. Will this lead to us having a great bond? Perhaps. What about you? Those of you who have amazing relationships with your horse-what came first? Respect, or love?