She's always happy to see me and she's even trotted up to me on a couple occasions from halfway across her field, so I'm not thinking it's a bond issue.
The problem is that she's hyper and she won't stand still for mounting and she freaks out if she's asked to be more than half a football field away from her bonded friend. When she's calm, she's angelic and she'll do anything for me.
On Saturday I was finally able to go ride her after not riding all week (I'm taking drivers ed so that I can go ride her as much as she needs), I probably should have lunged her (sometimes she seems to get more excited from lunging) before I even started doing anything else but I didn't. She was fine, standing still for grooming and everything, until I unhooked her halter. I could tell she wasn't going to stay still while I got on (she's afraid of the mounting block so I get on from the ground) so I got my trainer to hold her. As soon as I put weight in the stirrup she reared out of my trainers grasp. I was able to grab mane and get on but from then on it was crazy. She was mini rearing and crowhopping until I finally got her to stand still, then I got her into the arena which is nearer to her friend and she started calming down. I kinda felt like I had given in a wee bit but I didn't want her to get me off and learn to do that when she doesn't want to work.
The thing that scares me the most is that when I'm on her I can't really make her do anything she's not willing to do. If I ask her to stop and she doesn't want to she'll start backing up. If she doesn't want to go forward she either backs up or stops dead. I'm an expierenced rider and I really like this horse, she's just too proficient at backing.
I don't think it's a pain issue since she hasn't ever been lame and she stands perfectly still if I get off and get back on halfway through a session. She also has a really sensitive mouth, in a snaffle right now, so she gets tense if I put on very much rein pressure.
Should I just figure on lunging her as a general rule? I'm taking her to college with me in a year so I really want to get some of these issues ironed out before that.
And seriously, she's 20!! Argh.