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post #1 of 20 Old 09-26-2009, 08:06 PM Thread Starter
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Maybe we just dont 'click'...

Kinda wanna vent atm. Long sorry :(

Chance and I have been "together" for almost 2 years... Its been a VERY lonngggggg 2 years... Some days she will be amazing others its all mareish attitude.

You know how you and your horse should just "click" in a way. Like your both happy to see each other. Well Chance... Im happy to see her, she just doesnt seem happy to see me. Even when I did parelli.. it still never Changed. Like I will go out to the pasture, she will look at me and all but I have to be the one to get her to come to me. Or I have to go up to her and coax her to come with me. Once we get going she will walk with me all teh way to the barn no halter. When in the stall and I go to pet her, she walks to the other side or just looks away. Same on cross ties if I pet her neck she will turn it the other way. If Im looking at her you can see shes completely looking off somewhere else. Ears are mostly faceing away from me unless im at a good distance or she thinks im getting food...or were running around the arena for fun.

She nickers at me sometimes, but she does with others to so its nothing special really.. Shes only EXCITED to see me when I have a treat or thinks i do. She always checks to see if I have a treat, if not.. then forget about it. Grass seems to be 100x more interesting then me.

Riding.. she will do everything I want or try.. but most of the time is with a bad/dominate attitude. She will try and find any way out of it. Also I was free lungeing her today and she jumped over the rope that blocks the way out if you dont want to close the door.. yeah she jumped out of it and just trotted away... and When I brought her back.. she tried the same thing but I stopped her and put her on a line. Shes not herd bound or barn sour because she can walk away from it with no problems....

And she interacts with others with her ears up and sniffing them and letting them pet her nose etc.. me... no .. its kinda frusterating.

I rescued her, taught her walk/trot/canter/gallop/and jump under saddle[still working on canter/jumping]. She trusts me more then anyone.... but... idk she just doesnt seem to enjoy me being there. Everyone says she loves me but I dont think she does.

I seem to get frusterated easier with her, then I do any other horses that I worked with.

opinons maybe

am I over thinking it....
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post #2 of 20 Old 09-26-2009, 09:00 PM
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Sometimes I feel the same way about my boy! Some days he's very rude with me, other days hes very affectionate and is just happy to stand there with me petting his face. I actually went out to the pasture today and brought him in with no halter/lead rope, he just followed me all the way up. I originally thought his standoffishness was because he was so attached to his previous owner, but I think also to a certain point its just his attitude because he changed hands countless times in his years of racing.

You said you rescued her, maybe she just has those emotional scars where she trusts you, but she may not trust you. Two years may seem like a long time, but if she'd been abused/neglected by her previous owner for five, she still may think that one day you're going to pop up and be evil.

But if you really feel like there's something wrong, the only thing I can say is maybe look in to selling her? If it seems like something that you can work through and get past, then just keep at it....consistancy would be the only thing that would really prove to her that you aren't a) going anywhere and b) that you aren't going to hurt her.
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I'm sorry, but if I remember correctly, Chance is not really something I'd've considered a rescue, and I'm pretty sure she was at least greenbroke.

HAF, I do think you've come a long way with this mare, but I also think that you need to work on yourself a lot - I have been saying this since you bought Chance. So, I agree... I think you need something more schooled that you can learn from.

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post #4 of 20 Old 09-26-2009, 09:11 PM Thread Starter
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JDI Chance wasnt even broke, well she was saddle broke but not in any way trained. when I got her. I found out a heck of a lot about this mare from her breeder that I contacted a few months and Im suprised shes even alive or wasnt put into a slaughter house. Shes also shown me a lot of pictures from Chance past which were horrible! PM if your interested.. Or if you want you can talk to the breeder yourself. I was told a lot of things by the seller which were never true. Im not having a problem with her riding or anything -.-! Im having a problem with the way shes interacting with me! She have w.t.c and galloped today. Just speedy. Thats not refuring to her riding really shes just being a mare while riding.

I think maybe we just need a break for a while idk.

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JDI - I will say that I would probably be happier with a horse that could at least w.t.c normally. lol I love training horses but not my own xD
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post #6 of 20 Old 09-26-2009, 09:53 PM Thread Starter
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These are teh kind of things I get:
Michele. I watch you and Chance and she is you're mirror lol watever mood you are in. she is in! she is you're partner....
She more then loves you.

This is why I always feel liek I cant sell her because theres something Im not seeing.
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You know what I think ;) lol
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post #8 of 20 Old 09-27-2009, 02:51 AM Thread Starter
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Yes I do :)
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Hard to say. Sometimes you just have a personality clash with a horse and sometimes it is a matter of you just improving your skills and knowledge so you can communicate better with the horse. I don't know you or the mare, so hard to say. I had a horse whom I didn't get along that spectacularly with and for the first few years, it was because I didn't know what I was doing. My knowledge and horsemanship improved but the horse and I still had issues because we wanted different things (I wanted more dressage, she didn't). I sold the mare after four years and bought my current horse, whom I have now had for ten years. But when I sold that horse, she was a far better horse than she was when I had bought her. The mare I bought was anxious, bitchy, behind the leg, somewhat arena sour, didn't like going out on trails alone, occasionally took off bucking. When I sold her, she was sweet, easy to handle, easy to ride out on trail alone or with others, almost enjoyed schooling (as much as she was ever going to), and I think she then had a career being a nice little trail horse for a middle aged lady and teaching kids to jump, things she NEVER could have been good at four years beforehand. So yeah, even though the relationship didn't work out, I learned TON about horsemanship from that mare, precisely because she was a difficult wee mare, and I made a significant improvement in the mare's attitude about life and I think she was far happier.

If your mare is dangerous, then sell her, but if it's just rocky and difficult but not excessively dangerous (all riding is dangerous to an extent), I recommend sticking it out. You'll learn a lot if you are open to it and if you realize down the line that she still isn't the horse for you, you'll have a better chance of finding her a good home if she is a nice, well trained, happy horse.
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Chance has taught me A LOT I didnt know before owning her. She USE to be beyond dangerous. She use to randomly rear up when leading, drag me across the feilds. And The first time i tried to ride her she bolted down the 100acres, If not that then she was rareing or bucking. Now I trust her A LOT for the first time I galloped her ON PURPOSE LOL. She comes in with out a halter now everything :) So Im happy with her and shes a great horse, I just wish she would meet me half way somewhere.

Since she did have such a bad past I think its jsut gonna take her a little longer to really be able to trust me 100%

Its just been a long 2 years with going forward then way backwards. Lol.
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