I am a beginner with horses and I am an owner of a 7 year old mare.
Today we were going to go on a nice ride(absolutely beautiful out) with my mom. Since my mom just got off work and was going to change into some clothes I decided I would pony my mom's horse over.
My fiance opened the gate and I went to go get Gracie from the pasture. We were doing fine but once I asked her to go she would refuse and back up and I would turn her in circles and try it again. She was getting mad because I was trying to make her go. She was about to buck my fiance and mom said so we kept on trying because I didn't want her to think she could get away with it. I stayed on her while my fiance led her through the mud and then he unlatched her and I went on my way to get Gracie and was fine. After we were done riding I went to go try again and she she was putting up a fight and I would tell her to "woah" and she wouldn't listen very well.
I know she didn't want to go because it's muddy and hard to walk through. I am going to toss some straw out there so it can thicken up the mud.
I don't know what I can do to make her go. I want her to listen to me. The ONLY time I am willing to do what she wants to is when we are riding on the road and stops for some reason and turns back. I trust her knowing she might sense something because my mom's horse does the same thing so we figure it wouldn't be wise.
If anyone has any ideas let me know. My fiance thought maybe some spurs but she was spurred before in the past and she would always pin her ears back when ridden because of it but now she is picking her ears up.
Would a crop work?