Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: Taranaki New Zealand.
It is a tough issue and I think that the sensitivity of an individual animal will dictate the level of memory or rather the emotion retained. Having said that of course there are some levels of abuse that are so heinous it makes you wonder if the horse should be made to live with the memories of it. (what the hell is wrong with some people!? What kind of sick f#*k hits a horse in the mouth with a rock!?)
The subject of dealing with painful memories is a very difficult one, my husband suffers from post traumatic stress syndrome, an everlasting reminder of the abuse he suffered at the hands of his father. Even though we have the 'term' for what is wrong with him and he is able to rationalise it and understand where it stems from all that he can do is manage the condition. As his wife I find it is a very fine line between either being supportive and helpful or enabling and unhelpful. So transfer that to a horse who can't rationalise it's condition, how do you deal with it?
I think that problems arise when people can't let go of their expectations of their horse. You know, we buy a horse with dreams of galloping down the beach with the wind in our hair or competing in the olympics, National Rodeo or be a ponyclub star. We buy the horse that we hope is going to help our dreams come to fruition. We don't want to accept limitations put on us by an animal. I think as people we have to realise that some animals may not ever be the horse we want, the question is how many of us are willing to commit to a horse then adapt our wants around said horse and give up on some ambitions.
I don't know - it's too hard a question!