Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: Greenville area / SC
Only knowing what I can gather from your posts, I am thinking the problem is you rather then your horse. Everything I am hearing is that your horse is spoiled; not by carrots or cookies but by being allowed to get away with something.
As an example my horses need to learn to get into whatever trailer I have or a friend's trailer if that happens to be the case that day. There is no "gee maybe they will today, or maybe not". Loading a horse means we are going somewhere so I don't have the time to waste. If it is a different trailer, then I'll take a little more time to let him investigate - but he IS going on.
Horses are inherently lazy. They will do whatever they can to avoid work and if we let them it leads to behavioral problems. We can work with a horse until he does what we need him to do but the moment we relax, he will revert. They are also very intuitive to us and can tell if we are apprehensive, nervous, or determined.
Don't misunderstand me, horses may be lazy but they also want to please their handler IF they have respect for them. I would almost bet the ranch that if you had a good trainer work with him just once or twice, you would see a different horse - until you got back on. What it comes down to is, IMHO, you do not have the respect of your horse and he'll do what you want until he decides that he's had enough then it becomes a contest - guess what ... he always wins.
You seem to have a talented horse so I would start with a trainer who will work with both of you. He needs to be taught respect and you need to learn how to demand it. It is going to be more difficult then normal since you have years of history to overcome.
Anyway, that's my take on it.
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