iridehorse - I think im trying to get people to talk me out of the conclusion I have come to in the back of my mind. And I really don't want to admit defeat becasue she is so talented and my baby! I know really that she isnt what I need and can't afford to keep her, my gelding and another so she has to go to make way for a new one? So sad, and desperate for her to be cured of her constant spanner in the works attitude but kind giving up on her now. Everyway you turn she throws up another brick wall.
Kitten_val - Yeh I get what you mean, some trainers can do more harm than good!! But my mare isnt scared, not in the slightest. It is more of a " nah I don't want to today", than a "oh my god I really can't im to scared". Once on my lorry she doesnt call, doesnt sweat, eats happily, looks out of the window and seems so content its unreal. She only turns into a sweaty mess when she argues to the point that she is fighting herself. I would soooo let her off if it were genuine fear but the way she is perfect sometimes and just says no another I simply can't put it down to fear. Its just her being argumentative and being a spoilt brat!!
If anybody knows what else I could try please say. Do you think I should just get the box out everyday and just keep loading her, standing her on there until it sinks in or do you think she will still one day turn round when I least expect it and say NO?