Join Date: May 2009
Location: Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada
That's the entire POINT of "join-up". Monty Roberts doesn't sugar coat it, you want the horse to feel alone and vulnerable because that's what makes him want to "join-up" with you and be submissive, to let you be the leader.
Monty Roberts almost always has a seven foot high pen with absolutely zero distractions. The horse is forced to focus on him and him only. 99% of us don't have that luxury, so it's not going to work quite the same. And a horse that's already learned NOT to submit to humans because she got hurt is going to be twice as hard.
We tried it on a wild filly and she became so frenzied, we had to stop. After 45 minutes, we'd accomplished nothing but having her soaked in sweat and scraped up on her shoulders from banging into the rails. There were to many distractions, to much to look at, other horses to call to so that she never felt alone with US - she wanted to be with the OTHER horses and was asking them to come help.
You shouldn't be turning your back to her in join-up. When she shows signs of submission, you should be doing a 3/4 turn with your shoulder dropped so that you can see her easily (and react to whatever she may do, be it to drive her on or remain inviting) and yet open yourself up to "conversation" with her - invite her into your herd, let her know you're ready to talk it over.
It's not a "miracle cure". Your girl joining up with you will not make her immediately step into a trailer. If join up is not working with her, you're better off putting all that energy into just trailer training her period. Dedicate several hours to just hanging around the trailer, sitting inside it, letting her eat some food off the back of it, lunging her behind it, all very patiently and quietly. Don't wait until you HAVE to go somewhere - put aside an entire day to just making the trailer fun!
I hope God tells her to smash her computer with a sledgehammer.