Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: Spotsylvania, VA
I agree with MN Tigerstripes about your dad. His feelings are hurt right now. My mom and dad were like that years ago (back in the "80's) when they were getting a divorce. My daughter's father was like that when we got a divorce. But he calmed down, realized what he was doing to her, and tried buying her everything she wanted. Trying to get her to move in with him of course. Hopefully your dad will come around. I do believe you need to talk to him calmly and rationally and tell him how you feel. I know how easy it is for a discussion like this to get out of hand really quickly, and for tempers to flare. If he starts getting upset and raising his voice, don't raise yours to match...that'll just make things worse. Just calmly tell him that that's the way you feel and get up and walk away. Give him some time to digest everything. It may help. If you're considering leasing though, and your dad does come around to at least pay half, consider a half lease. That way, you'll still have access to him.
I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Good Luck!