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post #11 of 18 Old 12-14-2007, 01:41 AM
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sounds like you have had a bit of a tough run Mathew.

Good avice though, patients is the key with this one i think

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post #12 of 18 Old 12-14-2007, 04:10 AM
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I agree with checking your horse for pain first. Often when horses have been in an abusive situation with another horse who has been the alpha, as I suspect with your horse if he was with a stallion. Many times the horses have a lot of tension within and that needs to be released. This can be done easily by doing some Tellington Jones, message, or My favorite, Myofacial release methods. Actually I would start with Mane pulls all along the top line and hold each for three minutes or until your horse starts releasing by chewing or yawning. This often is enough to relax the horse and start becoming your partner.

I also wonder how much ground work you have done with this horse previous to mounting him. . This horse must respect what youare asking or I would work on this. This is all done in a gentle method, all this work is done from the ground and if it isn't, I sure don't want to mount the horse.I like to have my horse staying off me and I do this by working his eye off me. He should turn away from me on the forhand. Also work the horse to move his hind away from you. These are things that should be securely in place before mounting.

I also wonder how he was treated when you were away, but I almost wonder if your horse was allowed to show attitude as he decided to be the Alpha, and if you are affraid he is sensing that. Take back your possition as the one who is in control. I would start by sending him away when he shows aggression. There is a time to baby, but not when agression is in the picture. Do not reward your horse for bad behavior.
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post #13 of 18 Old 12-14-2007, 12:12 PM Thread Starter
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All of you have been absolutely amazing :) You have no idea how much help you've been. I had the owner of the barn help me with him last night and he was perfect. It was definitely me that was making him act like he was. I was working with him and I wasn't really into what I was doing. I've had a lot of personal things going on and my head was everywhere else except with him and what I was doing while I was with him. He definitely picked up on it and took full advantage of the situation. Once I approached him with confidence, he was the same ol' Achilles So now, it's back to groundwork. Thanks so much for everything! You guys have been lifesavers.
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post #14 of 18 Old 12-14-2007, 12:32 PM
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Great he's back on track! Good luck with him!
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post #15 of 18 Old 12-14-2007, 01:54 PM
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Originally Posted by lkvnyc
Once I approached him with confidence, he was the same ol' Achilles

Everyone has given great advice so far. But I think you had an "ah-ha" moment last night when you APPROACHED HIM WITH CONFIDENCE. I was reading through the responses and that was my immediate thought for what needed to be done.

So many times people know the right way to handle a horse, but they don't do it with confidence and meaning. That is a lot harder for people to do. How can a horse put his trust in you if you don't trust what you are asking??? You have to be a confident leader in order for the horse to be a confident follower.

Another website that talks a lot about gaining your horse's trust and being confident is

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post #16 of 18 Old 12-18-2007, 02:33 PM
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So happy for you. Working with horses can be such a break from the daily trials. Taking control and making it work gives us a great feeling, no matter how little we gain each day. Keep moving forward and enjoy. Just being with a horse for me takes away so many burdens. It is like a new breath!
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post #17 of 18 Old 12-18-2007, 04:18 PM Thread Starter
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Thanks guys :) I definitely have my confidence back....even though he did get a little nasty with me last night. But he's doing a lot better.

Thanks for the link to that website, GottaRide! And yeah, my avatar is him ;)
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post #18 of 18 Old 12-20-2007, 08:09 AM
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Sounds to me like someone else may have been afraid of him while you were gone. I've heard of stories of non-horse loving people taking care of horses and those horses can turn mean.
I would consult a professional, if you are frightened of him, it'll only get worse. My Thoroughbred had been passed from home to home, scaring people, and getting harder and harder to handle. Lucky for him he stumbled into my life. :)
But I do want to applaud you on saving your horse's life. Sadly there are so many that aren't as fortunate as your was. And I also am glad to hear you care enough to seek out answers instead of shipping him off.
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