I was just asking for advice on how I should handle the situation and got more that I wanted.
Yes, that can often happen. If you knew what you were going to get, you wouldn't need to ask.
I know my horse, you don't. I appreciate your concern but I'm not hurting her.
You may know *your* horse, but it sounds like you have little if any understanding for development of ALL horses, and you don't want to even consider the possibility that you are indeed hurting her.
Just for the hell of it, I'll have my mom check her back (she's the best horse person I know and is also a trainer).
Good for you, but just because she's a trainer & horseperson doesn't mean she knows diddly about backs & bodywork & I'm thinking that if she hasn't already said anything to you about riding babies, she knows very little in that particular area.
I'll just keep training her the way I am because if i ask for help, I have people telling me I'm doing everything wrong. This is the first horse I've trained and I'm still learning a lot.
I think a smarter approach - especially as you admit you're a novice trainer & have a lot to learn - is not to be so close-minded and ask for & *consider* advice. Yes, we all have different attitudes about things & often have disagreements, but if you won't even consider different opinions/information, where does that leave you - or more to the point, your poor horses??
I'm a kid. Like, seriously, so obviously I'd take criticism more to heart than an adult. If I mess up this horse, then I mess her up and I learn from it.
The first 5 words above tell me you're a kid
but why is that supposed to make you 'take criticism to heart', and if that's the case, why don't you do it?? It didn't start out as criticism either, but respectful information. It's become criticism - on my part anyway, because you seem so close minded & uncaring of your horses. Don't take it to heart because we say, don't take our word for it, but start taking it to heart & being considerate for your horse's sake, if you care for her at all.
If you were dealing with an inanimate, unfeeling thing, then go ahead & do what you like, but if you 'mess her up'(assuming it's not already too late), you don't just learn from it, you force another sentient being to suffer. Have some consideration for other than yourself & have some of that 'heart' you say kids have more of.